“Regretting after sex is simply NOT rape” – Netizens flame RP graduate who shares #metoo story online

A netizen who blogged about how she was “raped” by an ex-boyfriend drew immense flak, instead of support, after she described their encounter online.

The woman, Terra Lim, wrote in a blog post yesterday that she wants to share her own story of being “raped”, emboldened by #metoo and #timesup movement. Lim wrote that the incident happened when she was 18 years old, with her then-boyfriend who was a student at Republic Polytechnic like she was.

Lim recounted that the incident occurred while the two were alone in one of the bedrooms at her then-boyfriend’s flat in Sembawang. Branding her then-boyfriend as an outright “rapist” Lim wrote, “We were fooling around in his room, one thing led to another and…. he suddenly put his penis inside me.”

Asserting that she “had no intention of having sex with him or losing my virginity to him, ever” even though they were fooling around in bed, Lim recounted:

“Prior to that happening, I had no intention of having sex with him or losing my virginity to him, ever. He didn’t ask me about it either. He didn’t ask if I wanted to have sex with him. He didn’t ask if I wanted it. He just simply put it inside me without my consent.
“When it happened, I got the sharpest pain in my vagina and I yelled out “OW!”. He pulled away quickly and he started apologising, saying he was sorry and it was an “accident”.
“How do you accidentally put your penis into someone’s vagina, I wonder?
“I laid there on his bed for a long time just waiting for the sharp pain to fade. I didn’t even realise I was bleeding. It was after what seemed like 10 minutes that I got up slowly to go to the toilet, that we realised that I had bled a full amount. The blood stain on his sheets was the size of my palm.
“After I got out of the toilet, he had already taken off his sheets and he told his mom that my period came, hence the blood. That fucking liar.
“I told him that I needed a moment and he left me alone in his room. That was when I called my best friend and I cried to her. I cried and I described the feeling of losing something involuntarily and I can never get it back. I didn’t know why I was so upset…. I just was.
“Not long later, I went home. The next day, we went to school as normal. I felt down but nothing else happened.”

Lim said that she and her then-boyfriend continued to date for another three months before they broke up.

Claiming that the incident took a toll on her, Lim alleged that this was not the first time her ex had “accidentally” penetrated another girl. She claimed that her ex lost his own virginity by “accidentally” penetrating his former girlfriend while they were “fooling around”. She did not provide any evidence to support this allegation.

Exposing a photo of her ex-boyfriend, Lim shared: “I am still terrified of telling this to the world. I’m terrified of what people might think and respond.. but I have to do this. I have to do this to warn girls out there to be wary of [name redacted]. I don’t want my fate to befall on someone else.”

She added, “And if [name redacted] happens to read this, here’s something I want to say to you: Fuck you.”

Several netizens called Lim out for her severe allegations and asserted that there is no way Lim’s ex could have sexually penetrated her if the pair were not naked and not in a position that would allow him to penetrate her and cause her to bleed.

Pointing out that the couple were – by Lim’s own account – fooling around in a bedroom and that her boyfriend immediately pulled away when she expressed pain, netizens opined that Lim probably regretted having sex with her boyfriend and is misidentifying a consensual experience as rape.

Calling Lim a “delusional attention seeker,” netizens implored her to consider what kind of lasting consequences her ex might have to face just because she regretted what appears to be a consensual encounter, with some commenting that they hope Lim’s ex sues her for defamation:

197 COMMENTS

  1. Honestly if men didn’t want to be accused of rape they wouldn’t put themselves in such a vulnerable position to begin with. Why get naked with a girl and then just put your penis inside of her without asking? Really they deserve it for being so stupid.

    • Are you fucking stupid? Do you know how awkward it is asking “do you want to have sex with me?” If the girl doesnt want she will say no. As a girl its pretty clear when theres a fucking penis trying to enter you and you can always pull away and say no. Looks like youre a dumb virgin who doesnt know what you are talking about.

  2. Clearly, she consented to have sex. How can a penis
    get into her without her knowledge when fooling around? What is your definition of fooling around? Come on, you could not control yourself as you were fully aroused and also wanted to have it inside.What a liar!

  3. I think it was the moaning and estascy noises she was making not screaming for help or rape rape.
    Can’t believe how foolish of her to call after act. Maybe he decided to dump her that’s why.

  4. In India, if a guy breaks up after a sexual relationship is considered Rape .. Women are so pure like an Angel ,They are always the Victim not surprising

    • I am not from India, but in India , the laws are worse than Women charter .. eve teasing etc, a middle class above girls often misuse the laws ..if a guy turn off a marriage or breaks up after having a sexual relationship , it’s considered rape

  5. Of course this is rape! Because the guy did not get her to sign consent form in front of 2 witnesses and a notary public. Also the guy did not have 4 unrelated males to witness entire sexual intercourse, as such the authorities will assume it is rape. Quick, go make a police report.

  6. Woman..you don’t know what they are thinking. Like to play hard to get or cry foul over it if not getting enough or regretting it? That’s why I think DIY is better, no need to deal with a woman. Anyway it is still only a 10 min thing with a woman or you DIY and to me once in a blue moon will settle it. It is no different.

  7. “Lim said that she and her then-boyfriend continued to date for another three months before they broke up.” Bad sex. Not rape. Does anyone continue to date their rapist for three more months? Lol.

  8. OMFG she must got a huge ‘well’ sized-Vee Vee and he has got a pin size penis. He dropped his ‘pin’ inside her ‘well’ suddenly and that’s that she didn’t know instantly!! hahahahahahahahahah still so funny after seeing this post again hahahahahahahhahaha…….

  9. This type of girl should get punished instead!

    A lot of girls out there:
    1)bedding around got caught by bf….
    2) After sex, regret…
    3) After sex, did not get any money or gifts….
    4) After sex, extortion failed….
    Then cry rape, say this and that!!

    Stupid “Women charter” lured women into committing crimes!

  10. So the man’s penis managed to remove her panty and managed to get inside without her opening up. Wow, how do i get that kind of penis, tell me please…..

  11. Some more say fooling around on the bed. Lethal weapon already go inside you but you actually feel shiok. That u don’t say. Then come pain and u say he rape you? Lady, your brain where? At the back of your USB port is it?

  12. i prefer #mewtwo ……hahahhahah but thats a Pokemon Go reference… i did accidentally like Pokemon Go same as that accidental penis hahahahahahhahahahahahahah this post came on again…i am still laughing not sure why hahahahahahhahahahahahha FUNNYYYY!!

  13. WTH? Independent Sg. This type of thing don’t have to post lah. We are interested in becoming the next SG Govt. And Not meddle other people affairs. It impact your image as media , even Google avoid posting your news already. In this tiny island, there are “siao” ppl everywhere, like in SG MRT , some women/guy no brain don’t move and just stand 1 inch in front of you and say you “molest” . Don’t know polite. Got so many space they just like to stand in front of you and suck you up. I just avoid it and move away, why fight with them ?

  14. Gets naked in a room alone with a guy, then claims that his dick went into her vagina suddenly.

    Her cb is as big as a buffalo’s butt hole till it’s so easy to insert?

  15. Even Supenman doesnt have a dick made of steel to be able to pierce your underwear lah. Wahlow. U shame urself more then u shamed him with this ludicrous accusation. Now everyone knows ur face and all the guys that wanna date u will think twice, scared kana accused of ”Rape” whilst fooling around with you. You will grow old to be 101 never knowing what it feels like to ahem ahem…

  16. She have removed her post. I think getting “raped” by her then boyfriend wasn’t the only thing she regret doing.

    Should have just let it be woman.

  17. Victim blaming alive and well. Consent is not an all or nothing concept, ever heard of the baseball metaphor? So many sad things about this story. Plus, the poor state of our sg sex ed… smh

  18. girls does not want to protect themselves but instead accuse guys of rape?! that’s the problem with this generation, always want to YOLO, argue back and fight for their mother fking rights and freedom and then later regret that they should have done things they should not have… Haiz.

  19. Jensen Ling หัวใจ หัวใจ Weizhong Ng accidental penetration. Where to learn this kind of kung fu. His little Brother ‘bypass’ his trousers, boxer, her skirt or shorts or jeans or whatever, then her undies. Her bf more Bruce Lee than Bruce Lee. Of cos end of the day we still pity her. But the scenario really need to be admire by us.

  20. Okay guys, i had a short convo before she blocked me.

    So what i learn was that her motivation for her post was because she found out he got a new gf.

    2nd, she dont even know his sec ex gf, and basically making stories about that.

    3rd, they had MUTUAL sex after that incident, for like 3months. And she was the one whoe requested for it.

    4th, after all this drama surely u think they are not even FB Friends, but they still are.

    5th, yes i was also from RP. Nobody motivated me to post a comment like this.

    Liked this comment so it stays at the top.

    Peace Out. Have a good day. Be safe.

    Next time must have written consent before u try anythg funny ah guys.

  21. What an attention seeking “F***ing virginity-LOSER” !

    Btw, false rape accusation is a VERY serious matter and if so, needs to be investigated & dealt with severely by the long arms of the law here n SG !

  22. This is call taking extreme at the end of lower end of SG population curve . Both of them are trash . We are seeing more of this kind in MRT and at works because parents didn’t teach them well. They might be FT from our neighbouring countries , open and “telanjang”

  23. Such situation that could happen amongst married couples where husbands force their ways into the wives when they’re not feeling it…

  24. LOL!
    after sex, the guy dropped her, and she turned around and cried, ‘rape!’
    cheap slut!
    now everybody knows she is NOT a virgin anymore. guys will run from her or be framed for rape.

  25. I am blown away by the victim shaming comments.

    Fooling ard or not, penetration without consent is involuntary sex. In other words, rape.

    If it is what she says it is, and she is gg thru a difficult time coming to terms with losing her virginity without her consent, i hope she is strong in facing this backlash and it wont cause any irreparable consequences.

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