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SINGAPORE — A woman took to social media asking others for advice on getting back the $4,000 she lent her best friend.

In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman wrote that seven years ago, she lent her friend $4,000 to help repay a loan to the latter’s brother-in-law. “Fast forward today, my BFF has yet to return this sum of money to me”, she wrote.

Three years ago, she added that her friend’s career took off when she was promoted to the Head of the Department (HOD) the year before. The woman also added that her friend even bought a new car six months ago. “Our relationship is still good & I thought of putting it nicely to my friend for her to repay the loan i gave her. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not jealous of her success, but I thought since she is earning many times more than me, I could have good use for that sum of money”, she wrote.

She added that lending others money was not something she usually did, and she only made an exception with her friend since “she was struggling financially because of her house, reno & baby who came along”.

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“The question is , how do I bring up the subject to her to repay me without jeopardising our friendship ? I’m not confident if she still remembers this or the amount of money I lent her?” she asked.

Here’s what netizens said:

A man took to social media to complain about how his father only cares about money.

In an anonymous post to popular confessions Facebook page SGWhispers, the man added that he did not understand why his father only cared about money. In his post, he wrote that he and his brother gave their parents a monthly allowance and would also take care of all bills and insurance payments.

“We initially wanted to give both parents $450 each but my father says he has savings and CPF, this that so he will just take $200 instead and my mum should get $450. Ok, fine. but we still gave him $300 and mum $450”, the man wrote. He added that his mother would not even check to see if she had gotten her allowance money, but his father would keep receipts and tally the money every month. The man added that as of late, when his mother booked two holiday tours with her friends, his father started “complaining and hinting us that maybe the money division should be swapped. He kept saying he can handle money better”.

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“my father is kind of a miser who doesn’t want to spend on things/holidays (unless it’s a family trip) but we honestly don’t like to go on tour with him. he doesn’t know or want to enjoy himself but punch on his calculator all the time. When we go with him, we always need to convince him why we wanted to try a famous restaurant or buy a certain souvenir. He is also always about “worth the (ticket) money” so he rather pack a day full (from 7am-9pm kind) even if he himself is really tired”, the man wrote. He added that he and his brother even suggested to his father that they could split the allowance money equally between their parents. However, he wrote that his father seemed more interested in preventing his mother from getting and spending her allowance money.

“My mum have been a housewife almost all her life since she is 20. She had my brother when she is 22 and doesn’t get to enjoy her youth. And my father is such a miser, she doesn’t get to spend without his consent”, the man wrote. He even urged his father to pick up new hobbies or join classes or interest groups.

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“Recently my parents starts to quarrel over money a lot more. father will use “no earning power” to “guilt trip” mum and it hurts her because she feels like he is not appreciative of all the efforts and contributions she did for the family. But my father likes to use money as a judge and will comment about his friends children earning more than us, driving bigger cars etc. But what’s the point? It’s not like we’re going to sleep on the streets or go hungry. Can’t he just learn to enjoy the remaining of his life or at least let others enjoy theirs?” the man wrote.

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