SINGAPORE: A street interview has sparked a conversation among young Singaporeans about their views on parenthood.

When asked about their future plans for children, two young women responded with a firm “no” or “not for me,” citing personal reasons ranging from financial concerns to doubts about their parenting abilities.

“It seems painful. Imagine you go through 9 months… What if you don’t even like your kid? 9 whole months and you don’t even want to raise the kid, not for me,” said one Singaporean woman.

“And it’s expensive, it’s really expensive in this economy,” she added. She also noted that she’s scared of looking different after giving birth.

 

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“Another reason is because I don’t think I’m good with kids at all. I’m better off as a single aunt or something like that,” shared another interviewee.

The video resonated with many Singaporeans online who believe that not having kids should be a personal choice. Several questioned societal expectations and the pressures associated with traditional family roles.

“Why are people angry at other people not wanting to have kids, no matter the reason? It’s so weird. How does it personally affect you?” remarked one commenter.

Another pointed out, “Your body, your choice. You don’t need a ‘mature’ reason as to why you don’t want to have kids. You don’t need a reason at all.”

Another one agreed, stating, “No is a complete sentence!”

Pointing to the rising costs, one said, “In the past, a single income was more or less able to raise a family of 3 to 4. Now, many people are just barely able to survive due to the deterioration of real income.”

“When you’re single and barely have a decent income, of course, you think about your future alone; even dating feels hopeless because of people you encounter who aren’t giving off responsible partner vibes,” remarked another commenter. 

“It’s easy to say yes to kids when you see your partner as someone who can be a responsible, loving parent,” she added, noting that life seems easier with a partner who is more than just a passing companion.

Others highlighted the benefits of modern life and how it offers numerous activities to stay occupied. “Some people also choose to raise pets. That’s why you see some elderly ladies with a bunch of dogs, cats, and so on,” he said.

One commenter said, “Something that often goes unmentioned is how many people who criticise young adults for not wanting to have children overlook the responsibility of ensuring a child receives a stable upbringing.”

“Being in poor health, not emotionally or financially stable are all reasons not to have a child, and having a child while going through such things SHOULD be considered a form of child abuse.

I’m not saying people should be barred from childbirth based on financial literacy, but bringing a child into this world while being aware that you are unable to provide a healthy environment for them is malicious at worst and incredibly negligent at best,” he added. /TISG

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