Ooops! An AITA (Am I the A$$h**e) question on the NUS Whispers Facebook page got many YTA (You’re the A$$h**e) answers because as it turns out, many Singaporeans are equally ready to defend those who are ready to defend them back in return.

The woman asked the following: AITA for asking a NS man to stand in the MRT?

She wrote that she had already posed this question on AITA (over Reddit) some time ago “but got ripped apart,” but wrote it off as due to “culture differences.”

She then asked commenters “to be kind and give your honest but fair opinions.”

After explaining a bit about NS in Singapore, she wrote that the men who are undergoing training use public transportation on Fridays, when they go home, and Sundays, when they return to camp.

“I have bfs who’ve served NS, respectfully and dutifully, and my father did it too, when it was much harder, and he never complained.”

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She wrote that NSMen don’t usually sit when they’re on public transport for the following reasons:

“First reason for this is that they are bearing the coats of arms of our country, second reason is that they’re meant to be serving our country and a lot of people believe they shouldn’t even be out and about in the first place.

The last reason is that they’re men in their physical prime, meaning they can easily be able to stand for a while.”

However, she added that recently these men have been forgetting themselves, and “have began to say they deserve to sit because they actually stand for this country.

I think that is bullshit because they’re meant to be serving our country, not sitting on their lazy asses.”

She recently saw a man in full uniform, on a seat “while many women and children and elderly were standing.”

The poster spoke to the man, telling him there were others who needed his seat more. 

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“But he was being a baby saying his legs were sore and ‘dead’. I reasoned with him some more but eventually just demanded that he get up, citing all the reasons above.”

The man stood up and walked out of the train after others started filming them, and she pointed out the man’s name on his uniform.

“I told my friends about this, and most agreed that I did the right thing and he should’ve stood, but some of my male friends are refusing to talk to me now.


Netizens were not happy with the woman.

“Apologies for being “out and about” but our meagre military allowance of up to barely close to 1000 dollars during service time disallow us from taking a grab/taxi home,” wrote another.

One angry woman called her “an embarrassment to the country.”

Many did not hold back and told her how they felt.


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