Girlfriend earning more than twice her boyfriend’s salary says he makes her feel small, accuses her of trapping him into applying for BTO

A girlfriend who wrote that there was a power struggle in their relationship took to social media asking if others had shared similar experiences.

In her post, she wrote that they had been in a relationship for a year and a half, and felt that he was someone she wanted to live her life with. “Personally I believe that everyone is imperfect in some way, and that all relationships has its ups and downs in its lifetime. I’ve always been attracted to “drive”, to have someone not just to grow old together, but to “grow” together”, she added.

However, the girlfriend wrote that their relationship was non-traditional and she drew a salary that was more than twice what he earned.

“Over our period of dating, my partner has been relatively resistant to the growth mindset, happy with the status quo and has constantly voiced that he is happy being a supportive partner & a house husband”, she wrote, adding that she thought it was a huge waste of his potential.

“Till today, he has refused to meet 90% of my close friends even though I had mentioned that it would mean a lot to me (the relationships are extremely important to me and my career). FYI – we have already met each others family and his close friends. Because of this, I often feel sad not having the support I really need. He also constantly makes it a point for me to feel small. He would nitpick on my mistakes, making sure I paid for it by doing the same thing against me in days/months/years later just to proof a point that I was wrong”, she added.

In her post, she added that he would often see her as a villain in their relationship. He also accused her of “trapping him into applying for a BTO for the sake of me wanting to own a home when it was really for his sake (income ceiling issues)”.

Despite this, she added that he treated her well and made her happy. She felt that her partner would act out because of his “financial inferiority” but hoped he knew that she considered him her equal.

“Not asking for advice to stay/ break-up, I’ve already decided that I would like for this to be a lifelong relationship. Just wondering if there’s anyone out there with a similar experience, happily married and can provide some words of encouragement that I can keep for life”, she wrote.

Here’s what netizens who commented on her post said: