When her husband, who ran away 8 years ago, returned, a local woman and her son decided that they no longer needed the man.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, a woman who just wanted to tell her story said that she was married to a “foreign man”.
“We were together for 2 years. After we graduated, he proposed to me. We have initially been through some resistance from both our families, but they eventually gave in and wish us well. We moved back to Singapore as he had agreed to live with me at my place. He got a decent job and so did I. Soon he has gotten PR status and we officially tied the knot. We bought a resale and soon had a child”, the woman wrote in her post.
She added that while she thought all was going well, she felt her husband begin to drift away from the family.
“He leaves early and works late; he skips family events and friends’ meetups. He starts to get impatient with me and my boy but never really yelled at us. I can feel he is upset about something but whenever I ask, he said it’s nothing. Then one day. He took his passport and disappeared”, the woman wrote.
She went to his workplace to look for him but his bosses thought he was on medical leave. His parents did not know where he was either. After she made a police report, the police determined that the man had left the country.
“I will never forget that stressful week looking for him. Then suddenly I received a long text from him. He said he was growing tired of “Asian life and family life” and wanted some time to recharge and in his words ‘find the light and purpose in my life again'”, the woman wrote. She did not pressure him to come back and he promised to send her money once he found a job.
“Weeks became months and soon he was gone for a year. Throughout the year he did send money back to me although the amount is inconsistent. However, all my texts were not answered. I called his family, but they slowly distanced themselves from me and stopped answering my call after a few months”.
She added: “When I travelled to his hometown, I realised his family has moved and he is still nowhere to be found. And soon the money didn’t come too but that is unimportant. I feel depressed and helpless, resigning to the fate that my husband has abandoned us. I had to lie to my boy, telling him daddy was working overseas. I was under medication for depression for a while but recovered thanks to the motivation from my boy”.
In her post, the woman added that her husband was gone for 8 years, leaving her to raise her son as a single parent. Last month, when her husband called her out of the blue, he said that he had dearly missed both her and their child.
However, after his return, things were rather awkward in the house, and the woman realised that both she and their son had moved on.
“I was clear now that I wanted a divorce to have closure on my current life and status” she wrote. She added that she would speak to her husband once he was ready, but just wanted to share her story.
Netizens who commented on her post were also skeptical of the man’s intentions and urged her to get a divorce as well.
Here’s what they said:
