Singapore — Yet another worried girlfriend about her boyfriend’s “close female bff” wrote in to popular confessions page NUSWhispers asking others for advice on her situation.
This girlfriend wrote that she had been with her boyfriend for more than a year and was discussing marriage with him. However, she added that something (or rather someone) was bothering her.
She noted that her boyfriend had a female best friend he had known for a decade.
“they are always there for each other during their lowest times (i.e. rs issues with partners or break ups, health scares etc). They basically know each other inside out except for the physical intimacy part which I choose to believe him in that they’ve never been intimate. All these translates to her knowing him more than me for sure”, she wrote.
The girlfriend also added that she found it very strange how generous her boyfriend was with his friend, explaining that both would exchange gifts costing more than S$1000 each.
While she added that she was not comparing, she wrote: “My point is, I usually buy more affordable gifts within my budget like Airpod Pro for X’mas which I think is reasonable. On the other hand, this female bff will gift him an LV passport holder… she even mentioned she’s gonna buy him a OSIM massage chair that costs about $1k plus for his housewarming coming up in June”.
As a result of her boyfriend’s “close female bff”, the girlfriend wrote: “Oftentimes, I feel less of a gf than she is”.
She wrote that while her boyfriend would always reassure her of their relationship, she was still very insecure and asked netizens for their thoughts on the matter. “After reading my story do you’ll think my insecurities and worries are valid? And your thoughts on this sticky situation pls?”, she said.
Here’s what they had to say:
“You’re the backup”, said admins of the anonymous NUSWhispers page when another girlfriend asked if she should be concerned about her boyfriend’s close female friend he used to have feelings for.
In a post on the popular confessions page, this other girlfriend shared a very similar situation she was in.
She wrote that her boyfriend was good friends with his female friend, and “he often shares important news and updates with her and regularly catch up with her. She knows his family and extended family while I have yet to meet any despite being in a relationship with him for a year”.