A woman who moved in with a single father and his 8-year-old daughter felt that over time he became very calculative, to the point where he would sometimes treat her like a servant.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman, Jas, wrote that she was not able to live with her own family as her brother’s two sons would often bully her daughter.
“My brother will always side his boys and even mentioned that we’re the ‘guests’ not host. I can only ask my daughter to endure [their treatment]”, she wrote.
When single father Jo asked them to move in, Jas said that she was relieved.
“But at the same time, I didn’t want to be a leech to him. I offered to contribute to the expenses but he quickly decline citing he earns almost 4 times of me. He said he rather I take care of his house and daughter and make up for the lost of her motherly love. I gladly agreed as I am very confident with my cooking and believe I can take good care of the girls”, she added.
After a few months, Jas wrote that Jo’s attitude towards them started to change. She said that he became rather imposing, “Sometimes about what we wear and what I spend on, how to clean and pack. he gets angry if I ‘didn’t do my part’. Especially when I buy food back instead of cooking. There’s once he got angry because I took the girls to McDonald’s instead of cooking”, she wrote.
Jas added that Jo also started being very calculative about the extra expenses that incurred since she and her daughter moved in. “He cited a $40 increased in the utilities bills etc. He even mentioned about not getting the Nintendo Switch he promised the girls. I had a discussion with him to find out if he’s struggling financially or that he has plan to cut cost. But he just says he is disappointed in me for not fulfilling my duties and hence he feels unfair about what he has to pay for us”, she wrote.
When asked, Jo said that he expected her to cook, do the household chores and tuck the girls into bed. “He specifically mentioned about toilet not being clean and dry enough. I have done my best except on days I cannot due to work or I fall sick”, she added.
“He seems to set very high expectations and is kind of micromanaging. Like if I didn’t arrange the dishes in a certain way, he gets unhappy. And if I didn’t arrange the clothes in the way he likes (sometimes the rolled up towels or boxers rolled off), he’ll mess up that particular drawer so that I have to pack all over again. I realized if the toilet isn’t dry, or the toilet bowl doesn’t have the solution installed, he is unhappy. I also realized that he is actually unhappy when I didn’t do housework even if I am sick. He would sometimes do it himself and then gets very angry – throwing away things that are on the floor because they “blocked” him from cleaning “smoothly””, Jas wrote.Â
She explained that Jo nearly threw their daughter’s Science assignment away because it was on the floor. He also threw soft toys away because they fell off the bed when he was changing the sheets.
While Jo was nice to their daughters, Jas wrote that she felt like she needed to work for her lodging. She added: “he reminded me of my abusive ex husband who is a control freak with some kind of OCD. I am honestly confused and caught in between now”.
