SINGAPORE: A woman in her late 20s went online asking if it was normal for parents to expect more from their oldest child.
She shared her situation in a Reddit thread and wanted to know if her mother preferred her younger sister to her or if she was just overthinking the entire situation.
The woman said that both she and her sister were working. However, on birthdays, her mother would only give money to her sister. She added that even when she was younger, her mother did not give her money. “Mum also told sister don’t tell me about this”, she wrote. The woman said that her mother would often request expensive presents such as a new air conditioner, but would never ask her younger sister for such things.
“There are other circumstances whereby mum asked me to pay for my sister uni tuition fee (21k lol), I didn’t and I ended up be her guarantor for the student loan. Mum will also make me feel bad/guilty/uncomfortable to reject her request. Not sure if I am thinking too much. I wonder if mum just dislikes me or am I just overthinking?” she wrote.
Here’s what netizens who commented on the post said:
Last year, a 30-year-old woman took to social media to say that she hated her mother because the latter did not help her in any way financially.
The woman wrote that she had three children and that she had also planned for her mother to take care of the kids. In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman said that despite her plans, her mother “always complains about how naughty my kids were and my maid was not up to the task. Cut story short my in laws took over the task and there was peace”.
In her post, she added that when she started a new job that required her to have a car, she tried asking her mother. “The COE was at a all time high and I am thinking of borrowing money from her and repay her monthly. But she gave excuses to my hint. I have been giving her allowance since the first month I started working for 20 years”.