A man who has been going out with a girl for about six months found out that two of her previous boyfriends were married men. Worried about the red flag that her dating history posed, he asked other netizens for advice on what he should do.
“I think she’s a nice person and we have good chemistry and I am very attracted to her. I want to take things slow because I am very interested in her. I come from a broken family so I also want to make sure we are compatible before getting serious,” he wrote in an anonymous post on popular confessions page NUSWhispers.
In his post on Monday (March 14), the man said that he understood that she would have relationships before him and wrote: “She did not talk much about her past but recently she revealed 2 of her previous bfs were actually married men”.
He added that he was shocked by this revelation and said: “Long story short, I didn’t like her answers”.
The man wrote that his girlfriend got into her previous two relationships in spite of knowing the men were married. “She also made the first move. The relationships ended because the affairs were exposed. She was dumped,” he wrote.
“I grew up watching my father cheating and abandoning us. So I am rather triggered to hear her reveal that she had been the other woman. Not once but twice. A part of me is telling me this is not going to work,” he added, saying that he could sense a sense of triumph in her when she spoke about winning over married men.
Despite all of the above, he added that a part of him wanted to give her a chance.
When asked, his girlfriend said that she has since grown out of such behaviour and wants to have an open and honest relationship.
Confused, he asked other netizens: “Should I continue to see her? Do people really change? I don’t want to invest and get hurt later on. Before knowing this I actually think she could be the one. Now I feel lost”.
Here’s what netizens said:
