Singapore — A woman in love with a married man who also happens to be mentor asks for advice via social media but seems to be really after sympathy.
She gets the advice but not the sympathy.
In an anonymous post on Facebook on Sunday (Jan 16), she wrote: “I am in love with my friend and he’s married. I know it’s wrong”.
As the man was also her mentor, she relied on him for emotional support. “I find him very attentive and kind to me so I believe somewhere inside of him he also have (sic) feelings for me”, she said, in a confession to popular Facebook page NUSWhispers.
She revealed that the man had children and would often show her photos of them.
She tried to find out about his relationship with his wife, saying that he was rather secretive about it.
“I can guess he got problems with his wife. His wife is sort of an influencer and I can’t help but check her social media posts and updates daily to catch glimpses of him”, she wrote. Perhaps, in hope.
She said their interaction ended when he texted her saying that “his wife doesn’t want him to talk to me anymore”.
The ending of their friendship has caused her sleepless nights and made her lose her appetite for weeks, she said. Even though she wanted to text him again, she was afraid to do so as the last text message she got actually came from his wife.
“A few weeks later he called me and told me he don’t want to see me in his social circle again”, she wrote.
Now she feels very lost and hurt and still believes that the feelings she had for him were mutual. “If he didn’t like me why did he care for me and spend so much time on me?” she rationalised. She also wanted to know if their parting of the ways was truly what he wanted and not just what his wife wanted.
“I have a right to know how he really feels about me. I try to get a mutual friend to help but no one can help me”, she wrote.
The woman may not have expected the advice she received to be so unequivocal or so unsympathetic.
