Singapore—How much does a guy really need to finally settle down, or as one netizen put it, “to do all the big adulting things in life?”
“Is a 3k monthly salary enough” for “getting a house, renovation, marriage and kids.” a man asked netizens via the NUS Whispers Facebook page.
After he posted that inviting question, netizens had lots of advice for him.
The man said he had graduated last year, was already working and that he and his long-time girlfriend “have plans to marry early” . He mentioned that was planning to propose to her soon.
So what’s the problem? Well, for a start, he does not have much money saved .
“Due to my past mistakes in younger days in partying, buying gadgets and loss in the stock market, I’m only left with less than 5k across all my bank accounts and about 4K in cpf,” he said.
His girlfriend, a permanent resident, does not have a university degree, but she is also working and earns $2,300 a month. “As a man I feel I should shoulder most of the finances.” he said.
He is concerned about the future and wonders if they are financially in a good position to start out, since both of them help to support their families.
“But recently, I read that even buying a BTO requires 10% downpayment and I feel helpless.” Both of them have parents with health issues, and siblings who are still studying, so they they need to help out financially.
His predicament resonated with many netizens who chimed in with advice. More than one person said it was doable.
Several people advised him to “ROM first”, that is register their marriage with the Registry of Marriage first” or apply for a BTO for now.
But one netizen encouraged the poster not to get married at all.
Others urged the poster to delay marrying and focus on saving money.
At least one netizen who earns the same pay as the poster, aid it simply wasn’t enough.
Others offered practical advice, such as skipping wedding or living with their parents first.
/TISG
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