Frustrated with their father’s overbearing behaviour, a netizen asked if they should continue to tolerate it or leave.
The elder sibling of two, the netizen explained that their parents were divorced as their mother “can no longer stand living with” their father. While “Father have retired 8 years back and have a huge CPF and savings. (He often brags about it)”. In their twenties, the netizen and their brother live with their father, while their mother lives with her own family.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers on Monday (Jun 6), the netizen wrote that their father has unreasonable rules for everything in the house and “has this “mine” mindset that makes things very difficult for us all”.
The netizen added that for example, when the siblings wanted to watch a movie on TV, their father would say that it was ‘his TV’. The netizen added that despite the siblings paying for the TV and for the online streaming subscriptions, their father would insist on always choosing what to watch.
The netizen’s brother and father always quarrelled about the car usage as well, they wrote. “I can’t side anyone in this one as father bought the car, although it’s brother who paid for the COE renewal and insurance. But father always wants to hog the car, like he doesn’t allow brother to drive the car to work and brother have to “book in advance” if he wants to use during weekends”, they added. The netizen’s brother was also expected to refuel the vehicle all the time and have the car washed weekly. Because of this, the netizen’s brother decided to rent a car on his own and stopped paying for their father’s car insurance and petrol.
“We also have a hard time dining out with father as he always wants to choose what to eat and sometimes he would say ‘anything’ but reject everything we suggested”, the netizen added.
The situation became worse when the siblings’ uncle met with an accident. While the accident itself was not serious, their father “decided to shoulder the hospital bills — but he actually expected brother and I to pay with our CPF and spilt the bill between ourselves. He also told us to buy insurance and pay the premium for my uncle! (I saw the quote, its not cheap as my uncle is senior)”. Their uncle has not been working and does not have MediSave, the netizen wrote, but later explained that the uncle did have a large inheritance from their grandparents which would be more than enough to last him.
While the netizen’s brother spoke out adding that they were not able to afford another insurance premium, their father tried to guilt-trip the siblings and when that did not work “said we should leave HIS house if we don’t want to help pay for my uncle”.
The netizen’s brother decided that he wanted to leave the house and rent a room himself, or an apartment if the netizen decided to come along as well.
“I worried if he leaves, I am going to struggle with the bills and such with me being the only income (I am not hopeful about father chipping in). And honestly, I really wish to walk out of the house too”, the netizen wrote.
Those who commented on the netizens post were all in agreement that the netizen should move out of the house.