A male netizen wondered if there is something wrong with his relationship, or maybe even with himself because he says his girlfriend expects him to ask her for permission before he goes on a vacation.
He provided a bit of a backgrounder to readers of the popular SG Whispers Facebook page, writing that he is 30 and his girlfriend is 28 and that they’ve been going out for a year.
“I work shift and 98% of my off days I spend it w her. I seldom meet my outside friends and all because all busy w their own life.”
When a work colleague invited him to come along on a bike tour to Malacca, he was eager to give it a try, since neither of them have done this before.
Therefore, he was excited to tell his girlfriend all about it when he got home, and they got on their usual video call.
He told her, “Next month we going try ride to malacca. Got total of 4 person for now.”
However, he wrote that his girlfriend “got so angry saying I should at least ask her first.”
The man wrote that he could not understand why she got so angry, asking if he should say something to her like, “Dear can I go ride bike to malacca w my 4 friends? Will use both of my 2 off days.”
He added, “To me I feel I don’t need to ask her. I get it, she just wants me to ask as a form of courtesy. But some things I feel we should ask each other for permission and some things we don’t have the need to. Like eg meet friend for dinner. This one no need ask permission.
To me, just ride pass custom go malacca no need ask.
Who’s in the wrong here? Is there smth wrong w me? Or??”
Many netizens tended to agree with the man.
“You don’t want to marry your mother,” warned one commenter.
“She’s your gf not your wife,” pointed out another.
One man opined, “By telling her, it’s already courtesy…if need ask permission…quickly leave the relationship….good luck.”
“You informing her is already good enough. You don’t need to SEEK permission. Huge difference,” said one netizen.
Others, however, wrote that the issue may be about respect and/or communication.
/TISG