A woman in a financially tight situation with her new husband took to social media because she was at a loss for what to do. After getting remarried and having a new baby along with three school-going children from her previous marriage, the woman wrote that she was “independent (sic) after my 1st divorce, owning and fully paying for my own 5 room HDB. I even get full custody for the kids”.
However, she added that whenever she raised the topic of finances with her new husband, he would tell her that her three children staying in the house is not his. And despite him earning more than her (more than $6,000 a month), he does not pay for groceries or meals.
She said, “he does not:
– provide money for our groceries weekly
– never pay for our family meals if we were to go out together
– always expect me to pay for meals whenever we order in
– only gave $100 mthly for utilities, thats all
– does not fork out anything extra for e.g maid
– we own a car so he wants us to 50% the loan
– expect me to fully pay for the petrol”
“Recently, I changed job due to post pregnancy stress. I took a $2k paycut. Tried explaining to him to help out with the monthly utilities as I am struggling doing so alone, but got brutally scolded by him instead”, she wrote. She added that because she was afraid to tell him she did not have enough, she ended up putting a lot of her finances on her credit card.
“I didn’t know he can be so mean and stingy, I really didn’t expect this from him. He had alot of savings (6 digits). All he cares about is making and saving money, nothing else… I developed anxiety and panic attacks thinking about this sometimes”, the woman added.
She wrote that she did not think of divorce again as she hated the process and did not want to go through the agony of it again. She said that her husband even threatened to take her baby away if they ever did separate.
Though she did not explicitly ask netizens for advice, here’s what they said:
