SINGAPORE: After an online user asked on a forum, “How common is cheating in Singapore actually? For those who’ve also been through it, what was it like for you?” — one man opened up about his painful experience, saying he ended up divorcing his wife after she cheated on him with someone she met through a mobile game. Even now, five years later, he’s still trying to heal.
“I ended up divorcing my ex-wife after she cheated on me with some guy she met through a mobile game, even though we have two kids. To make things worse, she dropped the bomb on me during my birthday celebration,” he wrote.
He also shared that the emotional impact hasn’t faded much with time. “It’s been five years since then, I’m still dealing with the emotional fallout—nightmares, mental health struggles, and just this lingering sense of betrayal.”
In the beginning, he tried to return to the hobbies he used to enjoy, but found they didn’t feel the same anymore. “I tried getting back into my old hobbies, but most of them don’t bring the same joy anymore. These days I mostly spend time alone, watching VTubers or reading manga and light novels. It helps distract me a bit, but yeah… I know I’m lonely. It still hits hard when I see happy families out and about.”
He then admitted that the experience has left him with a deep fear of relationships. “I have a real fear of getting into another relationship. The trauma from what happened just made me really skeptical of people in general. Trust is hard now. For the moment, I’m just trying to get by day to day and find some peace in the little things.”
“Don’t let this person ruin the rest of your life.”
His comment quickly gained traction on the forum, racking up more than 423 upvotes and sparking a wave of supportive comments from fellow users.
One user said, “I’m so sorry. Don’t give up; you can still find someone else. Don’t let this person ruin the rest of your life.”
Another commented, “Bruh, you need help to heal. The real problem isn’t about trusting people, but that you’ve lost faith in yourself in making choices and being a good judge of character. Counselling is a way, though not sure fire but it has worked for many people so give it a shot.”
A third added, “Sorry to hear that man. This will definitely take time to heal and it’s ok doing things you like, like reading light novels and manga, even if it means numbing yourself for a bit until you’re ready for the next step. I myself read a lot of manga and web novels. If you want some recommendations, feel free to DM me.”
In other news, a Singaporean woman shared on Reddit that she ended up staying in a toxic relationship longer than she should have, simply because she and her partner had already secured a BTO flat together.
In her post on the r/SingaporeRaw forum, she explained that she had been working full-time throughout the relationship, while her partner was still studying and had no income. As a result, she found herself shouldering most of the financial responsibilities, including paying for their dates and shared expenses.
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