SINGAPORE: A 35-year-old man took to social media after he found that he was having feelings for a colleague.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page NUSWhispers, the man wrote that he was married with two children. “I met my wife in school when I was 22 and she was 20. We dated for 7 years before tying the knot. Throughout our relationship, I have always thought of her as my future partner because she is what society consider to be an ideal girl. She is smart, pretty, loving, kids-loving”, he wrote.
However, the man added that two years ago, he developed feelings for a colleague. While he said that he felt extremely guilty, he wrote that he could not control it.
“While my wife is great in the eyes of others, I’m lacking this excitement in life. Our conversations are very superficial e.g. what the kids eat, how the kids behave. We don’t delve into topics about my emotions and feelings. This colleague of mine is a stunner imo (my friends and colleagues think my wife is way prettier though)”, the man wrote.
He said that he could talk to his colleague for hours about any topic and added that they felt like soulmates. “I haven’t cheated physically but I feel like I am already cheating emotionally. I don’t know if I love my wife romantically anymore, or love her as a friend or whether I have even loved her at all”, the man wrote asking netizens for advice on what he should do.
Netizens who commented on the man’s post told him in no uncertain terms to grow up and to wake up. One said: “Dude, imagine this life with this person and fast forward 10 years, IT WILL BE THE SAME. If your wife is prettier and you still grew out of her, then what chance does this girl have? If you want to talk feelings, trying taking your wife out for a romantic date where you guys aren’t in a hurry and talk about life. And do this everyday, spend 15 min in bed talking about aspirations and fears, BE VULNERABLE to each other. Redecorate a room you’ve lived in, not discard it for one that looks neat only because it’s empty”.
Another netizen echoed similar sentiments: “based on what you’ve shared you’re doomed… better break this habit of yours before you deal with the consequences of such folly. Temptation is always there, think with the right head lah”.