SINGAPORE: A woman took to social media claiming that her husband had feelings for another woman. In an anonymous post to popular confessions page NUSWhispers, the woman wrote: “How do you trust your husband knowing he has feelings for another girl whom he claimed they (sic) were just good friends?”
In her post, the woman did not elaborate any further or provide any other details. Netizens who commented on the post urged the woman to speak to her husband and lay the matter out. One wrote: “It’s a red flag and you know it. The issue is not the level of your trust but that you are seeing the initial stages or possibility of what can blossom. If a man really wants to cheat, nothing you do or say can stop it. You can’t control a person’s mind, thoughts and behavior. You can only control yours. I know it is hard. Be your most confident, self assured self. Convey your thoughts clearly to him and make sure he understands the consequences of him stepping over your boundaries. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind and take action when something really happens. If he knows you are serious and treasure you more, he will do what is right. Else you know, he wasn’t yours to begin with. Hugs”.
Another netizen commented: “Then evaluate your situation and make exit plans. If you confirmed that he has feelings for someone else, if he’s admitted to you, then that would be the end of it. Nothing more to say”.
Earlier this year, a man took to social media after finding out that his fianceé was in another relationship and cheated on her then-boyfriend with him. In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the man said he was in a relationship with his fianceé for three years and planned to marry her the year after. He added that she had been great towards him, and he sincerely loved her. “Last week, she left her phone in my car after we went out for dinner. Took it with me to return it to her. Her phone rang, and it’s a guy’s name, which I didn’t recognize. I decided to pick it up, and before I get to say anything, the guy on the other line starts ranting and crying about her”, the man wrote. He added that on the phone, her first boyfriend begged her to return to him. The other guy cried when the man revealed he was engaged to the woman.
“Long story short, my fiancé (sic) had been in a relationship with him for 3 years and it was a wonderful relationship, but, this guy has been busy working to get more cash to marry her, and had almost no time to be with her although he consistently text and call her. He was busy thinking about buying a house, car etc. He works two different jobs too just to fulfill her dreams. She then decided to cheat on him with me. Yeah, I’m that “some guy” and “other guy” he was ranting about”, the man explained. /TISG
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