SINGAPORE: A woman said that she was disappointed because a friend she knew for years ghosted her on the day of their meetup.
Ghosting is a relatively new colloquial term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so. Even when the person being ghosted reaches out to re-initiate contact or gain closure, they’re met with silence.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman said that both she and her friend were married and had children. While they did not have much time to meet up frequently, she said that she was there for her friend when the latter went through a difficult period in her marriage. “Cut story short,i was around her area and wanted to meet up and catch up on life,texted her to ask if she wanted to meet up,i waited for 3-4 hours around her area only to be ignored. I even call her to confirm but she’s not answering, for the whole day she did not reply to any of my text or call but she’s posting on twitter and facebook like normal,” the woman wrote.
She added that because of her friend’s behaviour, many questions surfaced in her mind. She wondered if she was toxic or if her friend was simply just using her. She felt that her friend only came to her out of boredom and ignored her when she was occupied.
She asked netizens if she should cut off ties with her friend.
Netizens who commented on her post told her to end the friendship. One said: “No reaction is also an action, read in-between the lines. We cannot always hold on to the past believing that things stayed the same, it doesn’t. To let go or not is very much your decision. We cherish people doesn’t mean they will cherish us. Learn to let go and learn to have new connection in life”.
Another netizen explained: “Don’t always assume it’s about you. Maybe the other person feels ashamed or embarrassed to meet anyone in person. When someone is feeling depressed they may prefer to isolate themselves. Look objectively, is her reaction normal? Don’t take it personally. You’re upset because you had expectations, you expected her to meet you? Take away the expectation and you will feel free. Not asking you to exercise empathy or to get offended first. Sometimes you never really know what someone is going through even when they’ve shared a small part of their story with you, you still won’t know the full picture. If I were you, I’ll leave it be. And maybe the next time I’ll send a xmas, new year, birthday greeting, if I don’t get a reply, take it as the friendship is over”.