SINGAPORE: Despite being in a long-term relationship with her boyfriend of 12 years, a woman still wanted to know if she was missing out.
She wrote that the Built-To-Order (BTO) flat they applied for together would be ready in two years and that everything was going well between them. She also added that their goals were aligned.
“(BUT) what if the grass is greener on the other side? What if there’s other fishes in the sea? Ultimately I have not even stepped foot in the other ocean. What if I could find a better fish that could provide me a better life?” the woman asked. She said that her boyfriend was a typical guy with a stable income. He would pay for her meals, and did not have vices such as smoking, drinking or partying “and most importantly he is filial to his parents”.
She continued: “It’s just a little part of me feels that i’m “settling” since ultimately I have not dated any other guys before. But with the upcoming BTO, i would feel it is a waste that i’m throwing all these good stuff away just to “explore”. But if I don’t, i will always feel like there’s someone out there better, with car and condo waiting for me”.
The woman asked others in the group for advice.
Here’s what they said:
Last year, another girlfriend who wrote that there was a power struggle in their relationship took to social media asking if others had shared similar experiences.
In her post, she wrote that they had been in a relationship for a year and a half, and felt that he was someone she wanted to live her life with. “Personally I believe that everyone is imperfect in some way, and that all relationships has its ups and downs in its lifetime. I’ve always been attracted to “drive”, to have someone not just to grow old together, but to “grow” together”, she added.
However, the girlfriend wrote that their relationship was non-traditional, and she drew a salary more than twice what he earned.