Singapore — A woman who wondered whether disliking her husband is normal in an online confessional NUSWhispers Facebook page on Monday (Nov 29), got an earful from commenters, who answered her with a resounding “No!”
“My husband often disses me, ignores me when I’m feeling upset, or speaks to me in a very rude manner.
He enjoys putting me down and even outright ignoring me when I voice out my concerns with his behavior.“
She added that she had at first been “okay” to tolerate this, as they are “still pretty happy around each other.”
But recently, his behaviour toward her has become more unbearable, especially since it’s a daily occurrence.
“I’ve felt so unhappy for a long time and it has gotten worse over time,” the poster added.
She admitted to wanting to leave him, but this would affect their entire lives. Additionally, she felt unsure as to how to talk to him, as she claimed he was “quite child-like and is not capable of an adult conversation about his behavior.”
The poster also said her husband had not behaved this way before they married, and only showed his “true colors” later on.
“I still love him. What should I do?,”
she asked.
Netizens, including Professor Ben Leong, told her that what she was experiencing in her marriage is not normal.
Prof Leong, who teaches Computer Science at the School of Computer at the University of Singapore (NUS), is known to regularly dispense wisdom on the page.
Another called the husband “a toxic partner,” while one netizen characterised his behaviour as “mental abuse.”
A female commenter recommended that she give him a taste of his own medicine.
Yet another netizen recommended that she just leave him.
One woman wisely asked, “if your daughter was dating a man like your husband.. what advice will you give her?”
