A woman wrote a post on SG Whispers claiming to not only give her mother a monthly allowance but also pay for household bills and groceries, but her mother remains dissatisfied and tells others that her daughter gives only a small amount and refuses to let her mum retire.
The poster is aged 41 and is single. She writes that she earns $12,000 monthly.
“Investment and saving I put aside portion of money, and I don’t spend on top end branded clothing/bag. I love good food I spent quite a fair bit on good restaurants with my family and friends and holiday.”
She pays for all the expenses in her parents’ home. “Pub bills, Groceries, anything you name it I am the one paying for it. That include bringing her for nice restaurants dining and travelling.”
The woman is not an only child. She has a sister who is married with two children, whom she is expected to spend money on as well.
She also has a brother who hasn’t worked for four years, whom she doesn’t give money to, but whom she described as “just idle at home doing some housework or watch YouTube, Netflix.”
The woman wrote she used to give her parents $600— $400 for her mother and $200 for her father. But since her mum said she wanted to retire, the woman stated giving her $1,600 month.
However, her mother “still feel her money not enough she now saying she don’t want retired till I give her more.”
What appears to be very painful for the poster is that her mother “goes around telling my relative and friends I’m very spendthrift…
I can’t be giving her all my own money for saving in the event if anything happen to her my brother and sister will want the money to be spilt among them. I’m single I still need own money for old age.”
The situation with her family got so difficult that it caused fights between the woman and her ex-boyfriend, whom she broke up with eight years ago. She has been single since then.
She ended her post by writing, “I always wonder I’m doing too little or too much for my family. Till I deserve my mum going behind my back telling tales and my auntie will come tell me.”
Netizens encouraged the woman to move out or at least tell her family how she feels and to enjoy her own life, even while supporting her parents.
“Filial piety is NOT an absolute,” another commenter told her.
“Don’t understand why some parents treat their children like some retirement plan,” wrote another.
/TISG