SINGAPORE — A man took to social media after a woman he thought he had an “incredible connection” with decided to ghost him and play games with him in the months to come.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the man wrote that he met the woman a while ago and that the two of them “hit it off”. He added that despite them only going on a few dates, “sparks flew” between the two of them.
“You are not my type at all but it didn’t bother me because I never had such incredible connection with anyone else. Not even my ex-es. I thought we were progressing well but alas, you ghosted me suddenly. It hurts”, the man wrote. In his post, he added that after months of not speaking to him, the woman came around with “no remorse” and tried to reconnect with him again. However, he said that this time, he had lost faith in her and pushed her away because he did not want to subject himself to another emotional rollercoaster.
Despite his attempts, the man wrote: “You breadcrumbed me over the months that followed but I wasn’t affected. I thought I moved on. When I saw you again much later, I realised I still yearned for you”.
In a relationship context, breadcrumbing refers to someone giving you just enough ‘crumbs’ of attention or affection to give you hope and keep you on the hook — but not enough to make you feel comfortable or assured the relationship is going well. Someone who breadcrumbs leads you on by dropping small morsels of interest — an occasional message, phone call, date plan, or social media interaction. These happen sporadically and usually don’t have any follow-through.
The man wrote that because he could not get the woman off his mind, he convinced himself to forget the hurt she caused and asked her out on a date again. “I asked you out but you rejected me gently each time”, the man wrote.
He concluded his post by saying: “Looks like you have moved on while I am still hanging on to the possibility between us. Maybe it’s time for me to move on too and stop bothering you. I wish you all the best”.
Netizens who commented on the man’s post said she was not worth his time and advised him to move on. Others also told him to stop hanging on to false hope.
Here’s what they said:
Last year, a man who paid for everything on his first date with a woman asked what he should do when she ghosted him. The man’s anonymous post was titled “When to treat your first date?”.
He shared in his post to popular confessions page SGWhispers that he met the girl through a dating app. They spoke every day, and he wrote that the girl seemed very enthusiastic towards him while chatting.
“It was a good 9-hour date. I also treated her to almost all of the activities”, he wrote.
However, the man wrote that after their first date, the woman then ghosted him and did not even offer to split the bill. “How do I approach this situation? It was a big amount of money”, the man asked.
“What should I do if a girl does not offer to split bill? Felt kena scammed here”, the man added.
Man says the woman he went on a 9-hour first date ghosted him without splitting bill