SINGAPORE: A man about to be married took to social media with worries that he would not be able to cope with the lifestyle change. In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the man wrote that he was about to be married in a few months’ time and added that he had been with his fianceé for about four years.
“The issue is that I’m scared if I couldn’t cope with marriage. Basically, I’m way too comfortable being alone. I’ve been doing things all alone since I was a boy. Cooking alone, watching movies alone, eating out at a restaurant alone, go to the park alone, celebrate religious holiday alone, playing games alone, birthday celebration alone, study alone, shopping alone, go to fun fair alone, and the list goes on”, the man wrote. He explained that while he had close friends with whom he went out with sometimes, he did not meet them often. He also added that his fianceé would join him sometimes but “not occasionally as she also has things of her own, plus I’m not married to her yet. The reason why I do things alone cause I just want to have the freedom to do things on my own without waiting for someone to be free to do it with me. Nothing personal, really. If they’re free, then go ahead and join. If not, I’ll just do it all by myself”, he wrote.
“I’m excited and nervous about marrying my fiancé. I love her and I want the best for us. It’s not really a huge issue, but, since I’m way too comfortable being alone, do you think I’ll slowly adapt to do things together with her all the time? Or is the reality of marriage different than what I imagined?” the man asked, requesting netizens to make suggestions.
One netizen who commented said: “Why should marriage & dating be different? It’s just a piece of paper. You can still do things alone & grow, as can she. I’m sure she also doesn’t want to spend 24/7 stuck to you. The only thing is perhaps religious celebrations need compromise to spend together with each other’s families”.
Another commented: “Some people don’t have to go through to realize that marriage is not for them. Unfortunately for many others, they have to go through it to understand what they actually want in their life. So go ahead… Discover whether it is something suitable for you. Instead of always second guessing to be or not to be. P. S. You may want to check with your senior colleagues to see how many of them are happily married and bears no regrets. But remember that’s just them, it may not turn out the same for you”. /TISG