Employers who realized that their maid was sneaking out every night took to social media asking others for help on what they should do.
In an anonymous post to the popular Facebook group FDW in Singapore (working conditions forum), an employer wrote that they found out their helper “has been going out every night, about from 12 am to 2 am, and will come back at about 4 am to 5 am. She has a boyfriend and we suspect she always overnight at a hotel with her boyfriend”.
The employers also added that the helper’s boyfriend was a local so money was not an issue when it came to booking a hotel every night. The maid’s employer added that the family liked her very much and trusted her “with all our heart”. The employer also felt that she felt very upset to see her maid sneaking out.
The employer added that she had not spoken to her maid yet because “we wanted to giver her a chance to stop on her own. We left subtle hints to try to get her to realise that we already know, but it seems she really thinks we are stupid – she is still doing it”.
“I am determined to send her home”, the employer wrote.
Upon speaking to the helper’s previous employers, they realised that the maid was also sneaking out of their house as well, and this was why they sent her home. However, her previous employers said that they did not report the maid as they did not want any hassle to deal with.
“May I know if her doing breaks MOM rules and where can I read up officially about this rule? We would like to report to MOM as well and get her barred”, the employer wrote.
In the comments section, the employer also wrote: “Yes I was pretty confused because some say its breaking MOM law, some say its not. So just wanna found out which is right”.
She added that her helper had sought permission previously to go out after her work is completed on a normal weekday and the family had always allowed it. However, the helper started coming home later and later each time.
“So recently, we talk to her and tell her that she is taking advantage so we are not allowing her to go out at all anymore unless its off day. She said okay and apologise. And then now….start to sneak around our back cuz she know we dont let already”, the employer wrote.
In the comments section, other helpers and the group administrator advised the employer to speak to her maid and then send her back home as the trust was broken and it would be difficult to repair the situation.
Here’s what they said:
Also in the comments section, the maid’s employer came in with an update on the situation. She said that they spoke to her maid, who admitted to her wrongdoings.
“She admitted all of it…so its no longer assumptions – its true. We still detect a bit of lie in her words…but we dont want to pursue further. We gave her a choice. We told her we have no issues for her having a boyfriend, but meeting him should only be on her off day. If she chooses to still break the rules, then we will terminate her employment”, the employer wrote.