SINGAPORE: A 50-year-old woman took to social media to complain about her unreasonable 80-year-old father.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman wrote that her father retired recently and seemed to get annoyed by most things that happened in the house. She wrote: “He limits the time we come home, use the hair dryer and use the toilet at night for fear we will cause noise that will disturb the neighbours”. The woman added that when she had the lights switched on in the living room, her father complained because of the sliver of light that came in through the small gap at the bottom of the door. “When I turn my room door/toilet knobs he also say it will wake him. I was drying my hair at midnight but he was in the room scolding my mom on why can’t I dry my hair earlier coz it disturbing him and possibly the neighbours”, the woman added.
She said that she was almost 50 years old, yet her father still imposed a curfew on her and threatened to lock the door if she came home late. She added that she “has been contributing to my parents house and their living expenses since ard 19 years old , even when I was jobless…, I still support their expenses unconditionally with my savings, whereas my sibling who permanently lives with them did not contribute a single cent”.
“But my mom now tells me, my dad says if I hv any intention to move home, he will move out and I am maximum allowed to stay Occasionally only 1-2days…. And she tells me to stop doing things to make him angry coz he is alr so old, and he keep thinking he is nearing death”, the woman wrote, adding that her father will shout at her over small things for fear she would wake the neighbours or the others in the house.
Netizens who commented on the post urged the woman to move out as she seemed to be causing her elderly father stress. One wrote: “Your presence is not welcomed and is causing him much undue stress. It’s best to move out asap and not to stay there anymore. Usually people who are dying want peace and quiet in their environment. Treat it as his dying wish”. Another commented: “So sad to hear that you’re in such a situation. There’s only one way to resolve this matter and that is to move out and live on your own. As the saying goes “familiarity breeds contempt”. I think you’re in such a situation. If you can, do it ASAP”.