A man who calls himself a “relationship newbie” is wondering if his girlfriend really loves him, or is staying together because of his money.
He wrote on the NUS Whispers Facebook page that telling his girlfriend, with whom he has only been together a few months, that he earns “an above average income and also got lucky” in his investments recently.
The problem is that he feels her behaviour changed after he revealed how much money he has.
“I’m not filthy rich but the savings I have is substantial for my age group and she knows about it.
I have noticed that her behavior sorta changed after I told her. She has shown much more care and concern towards me, showered me with attention and in general treated me much better than before.”
His girlfriend, he added, comes from a family with an average income and does not “spend money recklessly.”
However, “she did casually mention that she wants to live in a condo some day.”
He went on to write, “I really don’t want a girl who is more interested in my money than me. I can’t ask her directly as I won’t get an honest answer anyway. I just find myself doubting her more these days, analyzing her words and thinking of breaking off.”
Netizens had a lot to say to the poster, including pointing out that he lacks confidence in himself.
One urged him to “go with the flow.”
One woman encouraged him to keep splitting their expenses, i.e., keep going dutch.
Others suggested ways for testing his girlfriend.
One said that if he’s not comfortable in the relationship, he should just break up with the woman.
One woman urged him to do some self-reflection, “instead of judging her through your own insecurities and fear.”
/TISG