ICYMI:Woman feels resentful and jealous of ‘carefree’ boyfriend earning S$12K a month, nearly 5X her pay

Singapore — A woman earning significantly less than her boyfriend wrote that she could not help but feel resentful and jealous of him.

In an anonymous post to the popular confessions Facebook page NUSWhispers, she her boyfriend had a high socio-economic status (SES) earned S$12,000 a month, had a well-off family and drives a car.

She, on the other hand, referred to herself as “middle class”, earning S$2,500 a month. Her parents were not so well to do and so they rarely went out for meals and could not afford to own a car.

“My boyfriend doesn’t (sic) mind all of these things about me and I know it’s  just me but I can’t help but feel so inferior compared to him,” she confided.

She explained that she felt he could very easily find someone similar to her, but earning a lot more, which would enable him to maintain his current standard of living, without him downgrading himself to match her financial capacity.

“Sometimes [I] feel resentful towards him because he always seems so carefree. Doesn’t  have to worry about things, parents really take care of his needs whereas I’m not so close to my family and I have to worry about my finances and cannot splurge as freely as he can”, she wrote.

In her post, she asked  for advice on getting over her negative feelings:

Here’s what they said:

Girlfriend asks if she should be worried about her boyfriend’s “close female bff” he buys S$1000 gifts for

Boyf earning 40 per cent more says his family isn’t well off and shares the bill with his girlfriend or tries to keep it to S$30