SINGAPORE: A man took to social media after he witnessed the bad behaviour of his acquaintance’s 25-year-old daughter.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the man wrote that his acquaintance’s daughter had already graduated and worked freelance. “She comes from a pretty well-to-do family that stays in a landed property. In addition to still partly depending on her parents (which is understandable in SG since it takes time to be able to afford moving out and living independently), she still frequently asks for expensive “gifts” from her parents knowing that they are too soft to reject her”, he wrote.
“Recently she has been demanding and throwing frequent tantrums at her parents for a high end gaming PC (costs a few thousand dollars). Despite the fact that she already has a PS5 and PS4, she wants the PC to game and also gives the excuse that she can “use it for her work” (she typically gives out these fluff justifications while asking her parents for stuff). Once when my acquaintance refused her in public, she threw a tantrum and ran to the bathroom crying”, the man added. He said that while her parents could afford to buy her whatever she wanted, they still found it costly to sustain her lifestyle.
Despite them telling her repeatedly that they would not continue to buy expensive gifts for her, she demands and throws tantrums to get her way.
“Is this kind of behaviour acceptable for a 25yr old? How would you all suggest my acquaintance advise his daughter?” the man asked netizens.
Many who commented on the post blamed the girl’s parents for her behaviour. They also advised the parents to stop enabling their daughter and to cut her off from their money.
Here’s what they said:
Earlier this year, a woman’s daughter took to social media because she found that her mother favoured her elder sister by giving her more money each month.
In an anonymous post to popular confessions page SGWhispers, the younger daughter wrote that she started out with humble beginnings where at “the age of 15, parents divorced and I had to start working part time after my O levels. I supported myself thru part time job, juggled between PT and poly school days, paid for my own daily expenses, school fees and etc”.
She added that after she got married and had her own child at age 26, she would spend lesser money on her own mother. However, she wrote that “Somehow as we age, my mum has expectations on this. For CNY, she expects gifts, money to buy CNY goodies, money to bao angbao”.
“My elder sister recently got married and my new brother-in-law shows no respect for our family at all. BUT, since his family is rich and he often gives my mother money (probably $50 or $100 each time they meet, erm 2-3 times a week), my mother grew to like him despite him being disrespectful to our family”, the woman wrote.
She added that she felt that because she could not give her mother the same amount of money, she was cast aside as being unfilial. “Every month I give her $300 allowance and she is still asking for more”, the woman wrote.