The newly famous busker Jeff Ng was slapped with allegations online of his abusive behaviour after his ex-girlfriend of almost three years released a lengthy post of their past.
“Worst person (I’ve) ever met,” said a netizen who went by the name of Lena Ng, in a Facebook post on Friday (July 1), referring to Mr Ng.
“Always wanted to write this post but never had the strength nor courage to. It’s something I should’ve done long ago – to clear my name with some friends or acquaintances and also to face the truth myself,” wrote Ms Ng.
She alleged that her former partner was a professional at “love-bombing”, where the partner would “spam you to get your attention, saying everything you want to hear to make you fall for him.”
Ms Ng said he could be on a call with her between one to eight hours, and 95 per cent of the time, it’s him talking. “Have literally tried putting the phone down cause I was in a work lunch, and I pick my phone up and 30 mins later, he’s still going on without noticing I was away.”
She noted that once she was “hooked to him,” the tables turned, and the relationship changed into Mr Ng blaming her for everything bad that happened.
“And you will believe him when he says it’s your fault. You end up doing anything for more of the affection he once showed,” she explained.
It reached a point where Ms Ng would “literally tremble in fear of incurring his wrath” as she felt “compelled to obey like a dog.”
She shared how they had to pretend not to be on a date if someone Mr Ng didn’t want to find out they were together happened to meet them.
On cheating, Ms Ng said he was a “serial cheater” and did so three times, “like clockwork every year.”
He “even dared to do it right in front of my face and rationalised it,” said Ms Ng.
“When we first got together, he was going between three girls. Literally went out sleeping with someone else TEN YEARS OLDER than me in the morning and come home to me to do the same, with zero shame.”
Included in her posts were screenshots of past communication with Mr Ng, including multiple missed calls early in the morning.
She admitted feeling like she was walking on eggshells every day, suffering from panic attacks and getting triggered by “just a phone call or a text” from him.
Still, she revealed it was “impossible to get out of this cycle once you’re in it.”
When she tried ending the relationship, he would “beg and cry and kneel and swearing to god that he knows he’s wrong and will change for (her).” Things escalated to Mr Ng stalking her and threatening to end his life.
“I used to not understand people who can’t leave toxic relationships. Till I met this one. It’s so close to literally feeling your own free will, even your soul, being sucked from you slowly till one day it’s all in someone’s hands,” said Ms Ng, who felt “psychologically locked in chains.”
Even after breaking up, Ms Ng said he would continue to contact her. “For a long time after the whole thing, I was genuinely too damaged and helpless to function.”
A few hours after Ms Ng’s post, Mr Ng released a public apology on his Facebook account. “I was young and reckless in my 20s and I allowed my emotions to get the better of me,” he explained.
“I know this is not a reasonable excuse at all. I was wrong, and I am sincerely sorry.” He also extended an apology to Ms Ng.
Facebook user John Lee also attached a screenshot on Mr Ng’s post regarding his “hot-tempered” nature.
It appears that Mr Ng argued with the organisers of one of his recent events. “Very bad attitude and don’t support him!” the original poster wrote.
“Apparently, he still scolds patrons for ‘making noises’ during his sets,” wrote another netizen on Mr Ng.
“I just hope you know talent or not has nothing to do with whether you will 红 or not. Talent can be cultivated and nurtured; everyone and anyone can have talent,” advised Facebook user Jaycelyn. “But if that attitude and character of yours don’t change, don’t expect anything. Maybe start by being more humble.” /TISG
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