Woman says she became depressed after separating from S$41K/month earning guy

SINGAPORE: A woman in her late 20s took to social media after leaving a depressing situation.

In an anonymous post to popular confessions page NUSWhispers, the woman said she was left hanging by a guy she met on a dating app. They reconnected a few years later. “We separated as he was only early months into army, he didn’t want commitment or let anyone else knew he was attached. Thereafter, we reconnected again and we both said nothing, it was silent but acted as though we were a couple. He puts his career first and likewise, didn’t want to commit but enjoying all the benefits, thoughtfulness and sweetness I would bring to him”. The woman added that she fell into depression after ending a relationship which never officially started.

“He knew I had feelings for him but watched me falling in love with him, without telling me to stop. However, as years past it just takes that one brave moment to turn away from him when all red flags were clear and seen. It saddens me how the bad people live a good life (he is in the sales industry and earns nearly half a million income) while i’m everyday working 9-5 just to lead a stable life. Life is so unfair, just because he’s rich he gets away from the wrongdoings and living a good life than many others who are more deserving and down to earth”, the woman wrote. She asked netizens for their thoughts on the matter.

Netizens who commented on the post said ultimately she chose to be with the guy despite knowing what he was doing. One said: “You’ve got yourself to blame honestly. You knew exactly what you got into and continued it. So stop whining and blaming the world”. Another commented: “You chose to be in a situation-ship with this guy, with both eyes open, heart and mind willing, all the while knowing he’s not going to put in any commitment, and you still blame the entire world for your own decision?”.

Earlier this year, a young woman who just graduated from the National University of Singapore (NUS) took to social media to share her poor experience on her first-ever date. In an anonymous post to popular confessions page NUSWhispers, the woman wrote that she was evergreen or had no relationship or dating experience.

She added that she “didn’t find love during my university days as I was focusing on my studies. I was never into the idea of using a dating app but my friends had always been encouraging me to”.

She wrote that she found it intimidating to meet and talk to strangers. At the insistence of her friends, she went on a dating app and matched with someone she saw potential in. After messaging for about a month, she mustered the courage to meet him in person. “He brought me to fast food restaurant on the first date and we went dutch. & He then ghosted me after a few weeks”, she wrote.