Woman in her mid-30s asks if she’s in a toxic relationship; partner is quick-tempered to her but mild-mannered to everyone else

A divorced woman in her mid-30s took to social media, asking netizens for advice as to whether she was in a toxic relationship.

In an anonymous post on popular confessions page SGWhispers, the woman wrote that she had been with her partner for the past four years. He is a decade older than her, and both of them are divorced with a child each.

“We have no plans to get hitched again given our age and past bad marriage experience hence our thoughts are quite aligned when it comes to our relationship; since we are only seeking for companionship ultimately”, the woman wrote.

However, she added that with her partner, everyone felt that he was mild-mannered as he was easy-going and smiled around her friends. “However whenever he is with me or his family, he’ll portray (sic_ his real self; a self-centered and quick tempered guy. He gets annoyed whenever things doesn’t go his way”, the woman wrote.

While he had never been physically abusive towards her, and he had promised to change, the woman wrote that her partner had never improved his behaviour.

Because marriage was not in their cards, the woman always let him be and would never pursue the issue.

She asked netizens if she was wrong for having such a mindset, or if her relationship was a toxic one that she had failed to see.

“Sadly, nobody believed me whenever I confided in my friends after fights/quarrels since he’s always a nice and easygoing chap during all the outings and gatherings. He had moved in with me recently and im beginning to think if this is the right direction that our relationship should be heading to. For context, both of us are financially independent and comfortable with our current lifestyle”, the woman wrote.

Here’s what netizens who commented on the post said: