A woman took to social media recently to lament about why “local men so boring” ended up getting schooled by commenters, some of whom bluntly told her that she may be the problem.
“Why are local men so boring?” she wrote in a post on the SG Whispers page, adding, “I really must ask ah, how come so many local men don’t seem to know how to talk about anything other than work?”
On the “many dates” she’s been on, she asks the man she’s out with about his hobbies and interests, but says that he cannot talk about them.
“Talk about gaming, talk about Yu-Gi-Oh, even talk about some films you’ve seen lately. I am trying to provoke even infodumping. Still cannot.”
She reiterated that they “can only talk about work, which usually requires even more background knowledge for me to understand VS hobbies.”
The woman went on to say this is “really baffling.”
“You can’t talk even about something you’re interested in? How did you make it to your twenties like this?”
She ended her post to say she has “basically given up” on dating local men and added that she suspects “being an expat or immigrant tends to self-select for having confidence and a level of ballsiness,” and hopes these men will be “better conversationalists.”
Although some commenters admitted that there may be more than a kernel of truth to her assertions, they also blasted her sweeping statements about “local men.”
One turned the tables around, writing, “Most local gals also quite boring, no?”
Another patiently tried to explain why men talk about their work.
A number of netizens told the woman that she may well be the problem.
One woman, however, agreed with her.
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