IF you’re behind bars, be you a dad or mum, doesn’t mean you cannot click with your children or family.
New Life Stories is giving imprisoned mothers a chance to connect with their children – through storytelling. Non-profit New Life Stories aims at helping incarcerated mothers break the cycle of crime.
When does a behind-the-bars story become more than a fairytale?
For Salimah Sukar, reading a story to her daughters was a step forward in her quest for a real-life, happy ending. Salimah is no stranger to life behind bars. In 2010, she landed in jail for the third time for trafficking drugs, this time to serve a seven-year sentence.
Arrested before her children’s eyes, she would not see her youngest daughter, only 14 months old then, for about four years.
“She did not know who I was,” recalls Salimah, who was released conditionally in 2015. “She asked, ‘Where is mother? How does she look like?’” “My older daughter (Ghaaziyah) showed her my photograph, but that doesn’t mean much, you see. It was very painful.”
Yes, life behind bar scan be a frustratingly challenging proposition.
In prison, she watched her fellow inmates become despondent from being cut off from loved ones, losing the will to turn their lives around. “People were released, and then they came back. They couldn’t cope,” recalls Salimah.
She feared she would become one of them – after all, she had failed to stay out of prison twice before.
But six months before her release, Salimah’s story took a turn: she was selected for a programme by non-profit New Life Stories, aimed at helping incarcerated mothers break the cycle of crime.
Set up in 2014 in Singapore, New Life’s efforts are two-fold. Mothers due for release are selected for a programme that prepares them for re-entering society, through befriending and counselling.
BENEFITS OF STORY-TELLING
Outside of prison, volunteers visit the women’s children once a week to read to them, improving the children’s language and social skills. The volunteers also bring their mothers’ presence into their lives once more, by creating voice recordings of their mothers reading a story to them.
These recordings are then played to their children, and their responses are captured on video and shown to the mothers.
In this manner, story-telling becomes “an expression of the mother’s love”, says New Life Stories co-founder Saleemah Ismail. “To break down the prison wall. To make the wall invisible. So that mother and child can connect.”
New Life began with 15 mothers in the first cohort. Now into the third intake with 30 mothers. And the results are showing.
Watching her children’s progress over videos, Salimah felt something she hadn’t experienced in a long time; a sense of connection to her daughters.
With help from volunteers, she put her thoughts to paper, creating a story starring three of her four children, complete with illustrations. New Life published the storybook, and gave it to her children.
“This is where my pain slowly healed. Even though there isn’t any physical contact, at least I know what is going on,” she says. “From there, my strength (grew).”
It’s never a bed of roses. Staying clear of crime after her release has been a struggle for Salimah, as she remains haunted by her past. But having her children as her focus has helped her stay on the path.
“If your children can accept you for who you were before, I can tell you that is already good. Not all children can accept,” says Salimah. “My shield is always my children…my children are important, my life is important, the future is important.”
This is not a mere fairy-tale. The bottom line: Dads and mums can stop going back to prison if they are happy.
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