‘I’m starting to feel upset’: Woman concerned as boyfriend of nearly 3 years still has not introduced her to his parents

SINGAPORE: A woman recently shared on Reddit that she has been feeling increasingly anxious after realising that, despite being in a relationship for almost three years, her boyfriend has yet to introduce her to his parents.

Sharing her dilemma on the r/sgdatingscene subreddit on Friday (Nov 7), the woman explained that she had already introduced him to her own family nearly a year ago, and they had met him in person. However, when it comes to meeting his parents, things have not progressed.

According to her, any time she mentions this issue or asks him “when he would introduce her to his parents, he would only reply with ‘see how,’ change the topic, or just get mad.”

“He also doesn’t like his friends knowing he has a girlfriend. I don’t know why he doesn’t want to introduce me, and I’m starting to feel upset.”

Feeling uncertain about how to move forward, she asked the online community, “Can someone share their thoughts or if this happened to you before?”

“If there is a genuine reason, he should spell it out.”

In the comments, many Redditors agreed that keeping a relationship secret for years is a serious red flag.

One commenter shared from personal experience that when someone insists on hiding a relationship, it usually means there’s a deeper issue. “From my experience, either my partner’s family doesn’t like me for some reason — religion, job, money, nationality — or my partner’s just keeping me around for convenience, not for the long term. Either way, I’m not sticking around to find out,” they said. 

Another added, “It’s weird that he doesn’t want his friends to know he has a girlfriend, and it’s been three years? How did he even keep it a secret that long? Something’s definitely off — that’s not normal at all.” 

Some also speculated that the boyfriend’s secrecy could be a sign that something even more suspicious was going on, like him planning to cheat or already having someone else. 

“Why does it sound like you might be the side chick?” one user asked. “Three years together, and he still doesn’t want his parents or friends to know about you? Why? Does he already have another girl, or is he embarrassed of you?”

In an update to her post, the woman said she brought up the issue again after reading everyone’s comments, but things didn’t go well. “He got mad, saying it’s hard and it’s not the right time. Now he’s mad at me,” she wrote, sounding both hurt and confused. 

Her update only made commenters more convinced that something wasn’t right, with many urging her to reconsider the relationship and think about whether she deserves to be treated this way.

One explained, “If there is a genuine reason, he should spell it out. Otherwise, this is more of a free ride thing for him; it’s not worth waiting for even one day more…Further, whatever he said seems like flimsy excuses, and he resorts to temper tantrums to escape any serious talks, and that reveals immaturity too.”

In other news, a domestic helper recently went on social media to vent that her employer has been constantly dumping long lists of household chores on her late at night, especially on weekends when she isn’t in charge of putting the child to bed.

Posting anonymously in the Direct Hire Transfer Singapore Maid/Domestic Helper Facebook group on Monday (Nov 3), she said she wanted to leave her current employer but couldn’t because they refused to give her a release paper.

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