Financial Support to Parents in SG: A Tradition or Obligation?

SINGAPORE: A man took to social media to share a common predicament about giving money to parents in SG. This raises questions about the dynamics of financial responsibility within families, igniting a discussion that has prompted a wave of responses, revealing diverse opinions.

The man promised to give 5% of his income to each of his parents. He asked for a one-month delay before starting these payments and explained that he wanted to enjoy his first month’s income and promised to create a fixed schedule for future contributions. However, this request led to an emotional reaction from his mother, who felt disappointed by the delay, telling him she was disappointed while crying.

He also shared his mother earns three times more than him, while his father’s income surpasses his own by a staggering twelve-fold. He said: “I know this is a form of gratitude for them to raise me up, that’s why I won’t say I won’t give any money, I still will, but honestly I feel that they should also consider my feelings too,” and asked, “And am I really in the wrong to just ask for an extra month delay?”

Redditor Nickie12345678 expressed a firm stance, saying, “I give 10%. If my mum behaves this way, i give nothing.”

Logical_Research5630, on the other hand, described the man’s situation as “typical gaslighting from parents” and said it is “very common among adults in SG.” He added having a job and an income shows progress in life and should be appreciated.

“Conversely, commanche_00 expressed relief that her parents do not exhibit the same behaviour. She also empathised with the Redditor, reminding him to be thankful that his parents are still well off.

According to Zula, financial responsibility within families has been discussed in Singapore. A poll by Answers.sg revealed that 32% of the respondents do not provide their parents with a monthly allowance. In contrast, 6% offer less than $250, while 13% allocate less than $500 to support their parents. Additionally, 14% contribute below $750, and 9% provide less than $1,000. Only 4% of respondents allocate less than $2,000 to their parents.

The reasons for not providing a monthly allowance vary. Some parents decline the financial support, believing that younger couples may need the money more. Some are willing to accept assistance only when facing financial challenges. On the other hand, other parents expect to receive a monthly allowance, considering it a way for their children to show respect and contribute to family expenses.

In Singapore and many other parts of the world, these conversations are common. As the cost of living rises, younger generations may find it challenging to balance personal financial goals with the desire to support their parents financially. The amount allocated as a monthly allowance may vary depending on each person’s circumstances and agreement with their parents.

Whether seen as an act of filial piety or contributing to household expenses, financial support for parents remains a common practice in Singapore.

/TISG

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