SINGAPORE: A woman named Helen Scott took to the Complaint Singapore Facebook group on Monday (Oct 23) to share her two cents on relationships, specifically, how she wants women to “raise the bar for themselves” and learn to be more self-sufficient.
“This is a piece of advice for the ladies,” she wrote. “It has been a culture that we (rely) on men for almost everything.” She then shared some common expectations among women regarding the role of a man in a relationship. “If we’re in a relationship with a man, we feel entitled,” she shared. “We feel the man is under obligation to pay all our bills.” Ms Scott pointed out what she believes to be a flaw in such thinking, arguing, “This has made men see us as a commodity that they can afford as many as they can.”
Given this, Ms Scott took it upon herself to call on women to “raise the bar for themselves”. “I want to urge the ladies to be productive to the society, ” she added.
“If, as a woman, you have your own source of income, no man will toy with you because you ain’t a commodity, ” Ms Scott wrote. “They can’t afford you and as such, you earn yourself respect. If a man is coming to you, he’s coming with love and not to buy you.”
The post did not fail to start quite the conversation online.
One online user rebutted, writing, “Are you for real! ‘Be productive to society’? Please apologise to all the women who have sacrificed dreams, family, (and) passions to be of service to husbands and in-laws and kids and parents. You dont know everyone’s journey. Not every woman goes through the same thing and has the same tolerance levels or same sacrifices. Some women deserve entitlement from the man who is growing and benefiting from a woman’s work and sacrifices. You know nothing…please stop giving unasked and unnecessary advice. Mind your own business and let people go through their lives.”
Ms Scott replied to this, saying, “Sorry if I sound like I’m generalising it. But most women depend solely on men and this has made men treat us as cheap articles.”
Still, another online user shared, “Sad to say, (there are) lots of entitled (people with) princess syndrome now. But you men also must know your own. Don’t go for (a) princess if you (are) not a prince LOL.”