Man shouted “Stop it!” to his girlfriend’s sexual advances, now she doesn’t want to see him anymore, asks advice: “I’m not sure what to do”

A man wrote in with a relationship dilemma, saying he was “at a loss” regarding his girlfriend. It seems that she “always makes the first move” when it comes to showing affection, which makes him “uncomfortable at times”, especially in public.

He wrote on the NUS Whispers Facebook page on Sunday (May 8) that he’s not sure what to do, after “One day, when I tried to decline her advances, she insisted and I pulled her hand up and shouted ‘Stop it’. She was shocked and cried. She didn’t want to see me for the next few days and when I called she would tell me she is busy with work,” acknowledging that he “must have hurt her badly.”

The poster wrote that he and his girlfriend have been together for five months. It seems that he feels like she’s a little bit out of his league, as his friends consider her to be more attractive than he is.

He described her as a “sweet looking girl, always cheerful, and a little on the plump side but with a body most guys will die for.”

As for the between them issue, he wrote that he is more of “an introvert” than she is, as she is “very outgoing.”  

“Things started to get even more touchy recently. Whenever I send her home, she will want me to park at the multi-storey car park so that we can do some heavy petting before she leaves.”

He also admitted that he is “afraid that others will see us” and that “as time went by, I found it increasingly uncomfortable to do such stuff in public areas.” 

Netizens had a lot to say to the poster.

The admin of NUS Whispers page, as well as others, suggested that he take a gentler tone with his girlfriend. 

Others were more direct: “Book a staycation and satisfy her lah since you so scared ppl see you in public,” wrote one commenter.

Others wrote that the man’s love language may be different from his girlfriend’s.

However, others warned about what they perceived to be “red flags” from the woman, as she did not obtain consent from him.

Others told him to simply be direct with his girlfriend. 

/TISG

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