We know that “crazy” is a word that shouldn’t be used lightly as it’s been weaponized against women, but in one man’s particular case, it may accurately describe how irrationally his wife reacts when she’s angry.
The man, who says their relationship is “very happy” when his wife is “calm and normal,” asked for advice on the SGWhispers Facebook page asking if he should stick it out while they get counselling. “Or I am being stubborn trying the impossible?” he wondered.
The man described how his wife behaves when she’s angry.
“She can throw furniture, punch, kick me, throw a Xmas tree down the house, throw my HP, throw food on the floor, etc etc etc. Block my HP, block IG and FB, remain u contactable until she is happy. It’s always my fault when there is a quarrel, she tends to jump to conclusions without finding out more details. She will be angry over the slightest issue, very low tolerance for me. I have to be careful with my words, anything against her thoughts may trigger her.”
The man, a divorcé with one son, says he’s thankful that she accepted him but also said it’s one of the reasons “she feels more superior” to him.
And while he admitted that “We can be very happy and have alot of fun when she is calm and normal,” he added that “There are too many incidents to bring up that I feel is very unreasonable and scary.”
He then went on to write about the latest incident of her anger, when she asked him to bring her lunch at 2:30. He told her he’d arrive between 3 of 4 o’clock and brought roasted chicken, her favourite.
“When I was home at 3.40pm, she was angry that she had to wait more than an hour and shd have told her to get grab.
In the end, she was so pissed she threw the rice on the floor, everything was scattered. I caused this issue, I was responsible so I had to clean up the oily mess.”
He went on to say that they are in counselling, but the wife does not make it a priority.
“I even went for a family violence counseling to learn how to not trigger her. She refuses to go as she feels that I am the reason for her behavior. As long as I don’t trigger her, she won’t react this way.
Shd I just be patient and wait for her to visit the counselor and then wait for the couple session?
Or I am being stubborn trying the impossible?” he asked.
Many netizens told him that his wife needs to take responsibility for her own actions and expressed concerns over the welfare of his child. Some netizens also said that the man’s son should not grow up in such an environment.
“Your wife only thinks about herself,” one commenter said.
“She is responsible for her actions,” wrote another.
One cautioned, “She needs to get help if she still wants to be with you.”
“Abuse is abuse,” wrote another.
/TISG