Singapore — Writing to the NUSWhispers Facebook page on Sunday (Dec 5), the man, who said he was 38, claimed that his 25-year-old colleague had fallen for him and “recently expressed her adoration”.
Though he says he’s married, has two kids, and claims he “still” loves his family and enjoys “great sex” with his wife, he admits that he is tempted to start something with the young woman, and “sometimes can’t help but think with my little head”.
He wrote that “the s** with my wife is still great, even though she had gave me 2 kids.”
that has not stopped him contemplating of a “FWB (friends with benefits)” arrangement with his young colleague “so no one finds out and gets hurt”.
He described the woman as having “comparable traits” to his wife, being “young, not say very pretty, GND (girl next door) type and great body”.
Having said this, he added that he “wouldn’t want to wreck” his family, and feels that because the woman is young and easily swayed, she may want more than an FWB situation “and can never keep it discreet”.
His solution is to try to “seek the avenue of incorporating her as a 3P (third person) to my marriage instead”.
He adds: “My colleague seems young, wild (the fact she confessed to me knowing I’m alr (already) a married old man) and willing-to-try type.”
Even more surprisingly, he claims his wife had “entertained such thoughts for 3P before when we are in bed, but she is generally still a conservative one”.
He asked netizens, “How can I go ahead to handle this situation to enable the best out of this situation for me? Any advice from my peeps?”
Instead of getting sympathetic advice, he got the bashing of his life from netizens, who warned him that he would not only ruin his marriage but also the life of the young woman.
One called him “shameless” and “deplorable”. Others asked how he would feel if his own daughter was in that position and an older man had similar desires for her.
Another asked how he would react if it was his wife who wanted another man as a third party in their marriage.
By and large, commenters urged him to abandon his plans of a “3P” situation.
Several asked him to think of how he’d feel if his daughter were in this situation.
One female commenter did not mince words about the consequences would be if he goes ahead with his plans.
Others warned him that his marriage might end in divorce, and urged him to think about his children.
One netizen wrote, “Please don’t destroy her.”
/TISG