Home News NUSWhisperer calls girlfriend who had FWBs "selfish" and an SPG; debate flares...

NUSWhisperer calls girlfriend who had FWBs “selfish” and an SPG; debate flares up on confession page




- Advertisement -

With our culture transitioning and gender roles shifting, millennials experience conflicting views on contemporary definitions of companionship. 

On Saturday (23 September), at NUSWhisper, an NUS confession page, a male anonymous contributor expressed anxieties over the fact that his girlfriend used to have friends with benefits (FWBs), despite she has done all she could to put an end to the past.

Debate on the topic flares up after another male NUSWhisperer responds and calls women who are promiscuous “selfish” and his own girlfriend who once dated a Caucasian an SPG (Sarong Party Girl, a derogatory term for women who date white men exclusively) on Sunday (24 September).

- Advertisement -

The apparent prejudice with generalisation and labelling has agitated many, particularly because the post implies a dyed-in-the-wool misogyny.

On Monday, a female NUSWhisperer has bashed in a post, categorising him as one of the”insecure modern day boys” for neglecting “ongoing pain” they have caused. She also highlights how men tend to objectify women because of their past or their choice over their partners’ races. However, she ends up labelling and generalising local men as “self-entitled, narrow-minded, judgemental and immature a**holes.”

Many guys are unconvinced, believing girls who have had FWBs and ONS (one night stand) are good for “fun” only.

Here’s another one (LTR stands for long term relationship).

And we also see another more in-depth interpretation by analogy with robbery, as both FWB and robbery are “immoral” behaviours except robbery is illegal.

Female contributors also do not call it quits in the ferocious battle.


To end the conflict on a peaceful note, a neutral post that has gained the highest number of  positive reactions on NUSWhispers Facebook page is shown below:






Send in your scoop to news@theindependent.sg 

- Advertisement -

Josephine Teo: From May 1, Dependant’s Pass holders will need work pass for employment

Singapore — Manpower Minister Josephine Teo announced on Wednesday (March 3) tighter new rules for foreigners on Dependant’s Passes (DP) who want to work in Singapore. From May 1 of this year, they will need to obtain their own work passes, such...

😊 – Rest of the word = Smiley and happy: 😊 – Singapore= Symbol of anarchy

  I just saw a news clip in the Today newspaper, which said that Mr Louise Ng, the Member of Parliament (MP) for Nee Soon Group Representation Constituency (GRC), was being investigated by the police for holding up a “smiley face”, encouraging...

Actor seen on Mediacorp’s Vasantham accused by budding artiste of wanting to sleep with him after “private show”

Update as of Mar 4:   In response to TISG’s queries, Selva said: “There have been troubling allegations surfacing recently. I simply wish to say, I did not send any inappropriate message via Facebook. I believe my account was hacked before this incident, which...

Send in your scoop to news@theindependent.sg