Father makes police report against boy who apparently bullied his daughter in school


A father, outraged that his daughter was apparently being bullied by a fellow student at Yishun Secondary School, made a police complaint against the alleged bully and said that he plans to take the boy to court.

Sharing the matter on Facebook, the father, Jeffrey Pay, claimed that the boy called his daughter a derogatory term and that the school did not do anything about the situation, since the boy is a a prefect and a National Cadet Corp squad leader.

He added that his daughter – who is presently in Secondary 1 – had previously been cyberbullied and that the school had disciplined the bullies the last time and are now holding back since the alleged bully this time is a student leader:

Recently my secondary one school going daughter was victimized at school from bullies. She was facing a lists from being…

Posted by Jeffrey Pay on Sunday, 8 October 2017

Dear parents. I have a very interesting information to share. To my surprise and ultimate disgusted with the school…

Posted by Jeffrey Pay on Monday, 9 October 2017

Dissatisfied that the school did not take action, Pay raised the matter to the Ministry of Education, which apparently told him that this is a matter for the school to handle:


Just received another round of "fuel" and added to the already burning fire of anger from Ministry of Education. What's…

Posted by Jeffrey Pay on Tuesday, 10 October 2017

Seeking “justice” for his daughter, Pay filed a police report and said that he plans to take the matter to court. “Let’s see how the boy’s performs in standing trials in the Court of laws,” he wrote on Facebook.

The police apparently did drop by the school to get a statement from his daughter:

The very first step of seeking injustice done to my daughter at Yishun Secondary School had being casted. Next step will…

Posted by Jeffrey Pay on Wednesday, 11 October 2017

Netizens, responding to Pay’s posts, had a different view and called the father out for being overprotective:

Claiming that the majority of commenters are off base about what really happened in a new post online today, Pay claimed that he had a meeting with the school and that he expects the matter to be resolved by the end of the school year.

He also took a potshot at the students who defended the alleged bully, stating that they are “very pathetically hiding behind their technologies and expensive hand held toy. As they act tough, by using adult’s speaking manners, basically they are still virgins and still sucking lollipops.”

Two days of reading hate mails from Facebook, mostly from students and former students of YSS. Gave me a mixture of…

Posted by Jeffrey Pay on Thursday, 12 October 2017


  1. If his daughter is indeed bullied, the father has the right to sort out the bully. If he does nothing, he’s a useless dad. Fark the netizens who want to let their own kids get bullied, they’re nothing but keyboard warriors but gutless in real life. Well done Jeffrey Pay!

  2. The recent case in St. Hilda was a good example that bullying in school is a serious problem which Moe should tackle headon and leave no stone unturned. Perhaps all schools should get one ot two teachers to volunteer as ” VSC”(voluntary special constables) and school disciplinary matters should be under them. Seeing them in police uniforms may give a subtle message to these impressionable youngster to behave.

  3. What’s this story about his daughter rating others? What made the student leader who should be more disciplined threw vulgarities at her? Does the daughter need counseling since a “chee bye” made her suicidal? I am not trying to take sides, I am for teaching the young to learn how to resolve conflicts themselves, that would give them a head start in life, better to do it in schools with so many safety nets than to do it out there when there is no longer anyone to protect you. Unless of course, the dad aspires to be Jackie Chan in the latest action packed feature.

  4. In a democracy society, the father have his rights to ask for justice to his daughter. The bullies presume by hiding behind their keyboards and age will allow things to go away? They’re damn wrong about it. How many kids in Singapore already dead because of bullying? How many have became bullies themselves?

  5. Keyboard warriors are quick to comment without knowing the truth. Wait till one day when your kid gets bullied and ends up on the top floor of the school waiting to jump off cause the teachers didn’t want to hear or react to bullying.
    I faced it not too long ago and I didn’t overreact but I was in the mood to kill. If parents can’t protect your own flesh and blood who can. The system ….,…….load of hogwash

  6. Dads does not aspires to be Jakie Chan. The girl did right to go for father protection. Father did right by bringing problem to school. School did ???????.
    When school do noting all so call safty nets are off.
    If daughter approach bully more bullying will come things takes a turn for the the worst. I dont see any head start there.
    All the bully need is a lesson in pain one way or another.

  7. As a mature a educated and civilised adult instead of making things worse maybe can try a soft approach like making friends with the boy and slowly find out the reason why he is bullying your Daughter my Son is also kena bully in school I went to his school and treated all his friends to some food and all of us sit down and talked mingle and joked after that they stopped bullying my Son I Guess they knew I know them already

  8. No wonder the younger generation are called strawberry, because they don’t learn to protect themselves, the parents does it for them.

    Hopefully the parents can live long enough to do that for their kids!

    Btw, knowing how to protect oneself does not happen overnight. It is a learned process. So if they don’t learn it now, they never will.

  9. In all honesty, I don’t think the police will be able to do anything let alone escalate the case to the Court. Mr Pay will have to take up a private civil suit but even if he wins and the Court demands an apology from the bully, it will probably result in the unintended consequence of his Daughter being ostracised by the rest of the school.

  10. Well done Jeffrey. Keep up the spirit. Not forgetting we have common big bully like PAP which happened to be our current govt. Also you might want to find out who is the father of that bully. If it happens to be a PAP man, your current strategy may have to change. Wish you luck.

  11. Does the school have a dept to handle student issues.That would be the best way of assessing the validity of the accusation. How come the girl is always bullied. The boy is probably 13-14 years old, he will be represented by his parents and lawyer. Children should be taught how to stand up for themselves, and where they can seek help…..remember they all have to grow up and enter the big adult world, which is even more unkind.

  12. I think its best to let the school handle the issue. Going to the authorities does not make you a big shot. In fact your kid might be hated on more. Deal with it as an adult. Im speaking as a parent who has gone through such issues before. Yes the netizens may be wrong but what you are doing, Mr Pay, is equally childish. You’re an adult, act like one.

  13. If the boy is a school prefect and student leader, he should not bully other students, but instead protect and take care of them. If he bullies others because he’s a prefect, then that’s abuse of power. He should be haul off to court and hope the judge dress him down throughly. Father did a good job.