Distraught father prepares grave for critically ill daughter by lying in with her every day



SICHUAN, CHINA – Little Zhang Xinlei was diagnosed with a congenital blood disorder called thalassemia when she was 2 months old. Mr Zhang Li Yong, father of the two-year-old, has depleted his savings for her medical costs.

Mr Zhang draws meagre monthly income of 2500RMB (about $500) as a night shift worker at a glass factory in Neijiang, Sichuan. After spending over $28,000 (140,000 Chinese Yuan) on daughter’s medical treatment, he then resorted to other means, such as borrowing and fundraising.

The couple told the Chinese media, “We have borrowed money from everyone possible, to the extent that nobody is willing to help us anymore.”

In despair, he thought of a way to make the last days of his daughter a little more comfortable – he dug her grave and lay in with her everyday -to make sure she does not feel scared when the time comes.

“I could only come up with the idea to bring her to play at [her grave]. This is where she’ll rest in peace, so all I can do is accompany her here everyday.”

Disease-stricken Xinlei became ostracised due to her odd condition. She is often seen mumbling to herself or to animals, while playing alone at a sand ground nearby. Sometimes, her father would take her out for net-fishing.

Xinlei’s condition requires blood transfusion every month to sustain life. Often, she falls ill due to low immunity and gets hospitalised for a couple of weeks. Her parents, unfortunately, have unmatched blood type to supply blood.

As a result, the couple were hopeful that a newborn’s cord blood could treat Xin Lei’s condition. However, they realised that the transplant would cost hundred of thousands of Yuan, which is beyond their means.

The family has also appealed for help on a Chinese fundraising website. The last donation took place 2 months ago.


  1. He did what he could , wonder the fast going Economic Giant of Asia cannot do anything for its own citizen ? No one could. Where is the China spirit? We are talking about a population of millions or billions cannot raise that amount ? My heart goes out to them. I hope and pray God will move the hearts of a kind soul. Only God can help.Bless you.

  2. While I feel sorry for the child’s illness, I don’t think it is necessary to over react in this manner.

    The child needs a cleaner environment rather than be in direct contact with soil which has all kinds of bacteria & germs in it.

    Bring her to visit places where all children will enjoy themselves and which she will miss out.
    Let her leave with sweet memories and a heart filled with joy of spending quality time with her parents & relatives / friends.

    When she passed on, her soul wl ascend to Heaven, only her empty body wl be buried.
    She can never know what fear is after she takes her final breath.

    Do it right for yr child, not in this way.

    • Joseph LEE
      Tks for complete info.
      I agree with you.

      Both parents carrying this genes, 1st child inherited fr them, v likely 2nd child wl also suffer the same fate ?
      Then double tragedy wl happen and they hv to start all over again.
      Does this make sense???

      There’s no logic to both their actions!

      A Father’s love can be showered by other means, certainly not like this.

      There are also parents whose child is terminally ill but none in the world wld ever do it this way.
      They wl keep d child comfortable and safe, not expose the child to germs/ bacterias.


  3. Much as I know there are sensible n pragmatic ppl out here but sometimes when situation hasn’t happened to oneself personally its easier to comment rationally. If u havent face death in the face or had some loved ones passed on too soon (of which i had experienced both) its very easy to give solution off the head. Btw am still facing death daily.

  4. it is a great pain as a father or parents to be helpless in your child’s deteriorating medical condition, not able to provide what is needed to sustain their life. as parents who truly love their children it is a burden they must bear, but it is during this difficult and trying times that we as humans must humble ourselves to the sovereign and true living God – Jesus Christ. it is said in the bible:
    “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28
    “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
    – Philippians 4:19
    “My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. Let them not escape from your sight; keep them within your heart. For they are life to those who find them, and healing to all their flesh.”
    – Proverbs 4:20-22
    ” You shall serve the Lord your God, and he will bless your bread and your water, and I will take sickness away from among you.”
    -Exodus 23:25
    “He sent out his word and healed them, and delivered them from their destruction.” – Psalm 107:20
    “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,”
    – Psalm 103:2-4
    Let us humble oursleves in front of God and acknowledge that we are helpless and sinful people and cry out to Him for forgiveness and by faith believe that his death on the cross took away all our sins. only Jesus can bring healing to our soul.
    1 Peter 2:24 (NIV) says;
    “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”

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