95-year-old wheelchair-bound woman is left at HDB void deck for 6 hours during family dispute over who she should live with

A 95-year-old wheelchair-bound woman was left waiting at a HDB void deck at Hougang Ave 8 for six hours during a family dispute about who she should be living with. The elderly woman was accompanied by a domestic helper.

One of the elderly woman’s daughters, 52-year-old Mdm Shen, told the Chinese daily that her mother became confined to a wheelchair more than a year ago, after suffering a hip injury caused by a fall. This also caused her mother to spend large amounts of time in bed. Mdm Shen revealed:

 

“My mother has been living with my eldest sister for about 20 years. My niece helps to care for her too.
“However in the past two or three years, my mother has been bad-tempered. She often scolds and hits my niece. On April 16 at around 8pm, my mother not only scolded the maid, but also kicked (her). It’s worrying.”
“My mother said she wanted to stay at my older brother’s house. Therefore, we arranged for her to go over that night. My brother and his wife also said they would take care of her properly.
“However, two days later, they unexpectedly sent my mother back to my eldest sister’s place.”

Since her mother was still “throwing a tantrum” and since Mdm Shen discovered her mother’s desire to move out from her older sister’s place, Mdm Shen and her niece decided to return her mother back to her brother’s house:

“At 11am that day, we were driving to my brother’s home. My mother and the maid sat at the void deck and were waiting to go upstairs.
“I realised that my sister-in-law was returning from buying food and was trying to avoid us from a distance. Afterwards, when my niece discovered her, she left my mother in my sister-in-law’s care and left.”

Mdm Shen revealed that she received a call from her brother later, requesting her to come and fetch their mother. It was only then that Mdm Shen realised her mother had been sitting at the void deck the whole time:

“The two of them had been waiting downstairs for six hours just like that. It made us feel really angry. My brother and his wife had actually not allowed my mother into their home!”

Mdm Shen’s sister-in-law, however, told the Chinese daily a different story. Refuting the allegations, 62-year-old Mdm Zhang said that it was Mdm Shen who left the elderly woman at their block, even though her mother-in-law did not want to move from her eldest daughter’s home:

“My mother-in-law did not even want to move out. It was said that she would only be temporarily staying with us for a few days.
“It was Mdm Shen who left her mother downstairs without a care. She did not hand her mother over to us and simply left on her own with her niece.”

7 COMMENTS

  1. She is your mother. Stop pushing her around s just take care of her. Yes she will scold and try to punch. But that’s what you did when you were young and she took it all. She endured and looked after you, it’s your time now to endure and look after her no matter what!!

  2. Undeniably, old lady is still their mother. In prison or in an elderly home, her daughters and sons have to fairly pay for the cost.
    Her daughters and sons, whether they are here, living in Singapore or outside of Singapore.
    If there’s a need to risen taxes to her children, do it.
    Our elderlies with off springs are in the brink leaving to their own devices.
    Western educations gives us knowledges and cutting edges in many aspects. Our asian moral cultures are building up as well. Cannot compare to how each individual percieving in their (Off – springs) minds, however.
    Very sad, indeed.

    • In general, there are other bad phenomenons.
      – Off springs begs for retirement fund from their retired parents for their conveniences.
      – Healthy functioning parents, siblings, spouses, individualilties and etc… … asks from their handicapped childrens, siblings, spouses, individualities and etc… … to support these healthy functioning parents, siblings, spouses, individualities and etc… … in terms monetary. Or else, there shan’t many options for these handicapped personalities, who are un – co – operatives, are left to be in their own devices, in many cases. These healthy functionings off springs, parents, siblings, spouses, individualities should be dealt with heavily and seriously with taxes for many moral reasons. Whether, these healthy functionings are here, living in Singapore or outside of Singapore.

    • Typically, (a lot of) humanities are hideous and parasitic.
      Disgusted. Offended.
      Millions and billions have agreed, definitely.
      Let’s drop the fact, how we might be inspired by employers, movies, speechers and etc… … These are not even closed to spirituality, whereby, in many circumstances, religiously, religions comforting these less fortunate to forgive, move on for handicapped individuality’s, their on survivals.
      Retirement sums and handicapped individuals do not come by chances. Retirements monies are the result of hardworks of our parents.
      Handicapped individuals do not happened by chances. Some are from birthed. Some are due from diseased. Some are due from accidentals and incidentals. Many of these, are unwanted by the individualities, who are victimed as handicapped from births, from diseases, from accidentals, from incidentals and etc… …
      These handicapped individualities are having someone close to their hearts for warmth, most importantly, genuined to themselves that gives handicapped individualities every reasons to spur on till their last moment, when the flames in them dies out… … like every individualities.
      Sad huh… … Indeed.
      Very sad, indeed.

  3. In general, there are other bad phenomenons.
    – Off springs begs for retirement fund from their retired parents for their conveniences.
    – Healthy functioning parents, siblings, spouses, individualilties and etc… … asks from their handicapped childrens, siblings, spouses, individualities and etc… … to support these healthy functioning parents, siblings, spouses, individualities and etc… … in terms monetary. Or else, there shan’t many options for these handicapped personalities, who are un – co – operatives, are left to be in their own devices, in many cases. These healthy functionings off springs, parents, siblings, spouses, individualities should be dealt with heavily and seriously with taxes for many moral reasons. Whether, these healthy functionings are here, living in Singapore or outside of Singapore.

  4. Typically, (a lot of) humanities are hideous and parasitic.
    Disgusted. Offended.
    Millions and billions have agreed, definitely.
    Let’s drop the fact, how we might be inspired by employers, movies, speechers and etc… … These are not even closed to spirituality, whereby, in many circumstances, religiously, religions comforting these less fortunate to forgive, move on for handicapped individuality’s, their on survivals.
    Retirement sums and handicapped individuals do not come by chances. Retirements monies are the result of hardworks of our parents.
    Handicapped individuals do not happened by chances. Some are from birthed. Some are due from diseased. Some are due from accidentals and incidentals. Many of these, are unwanted by the individualities, who are victimed as handicapped from births, from diseases, from accidentals, from incidentals and etc… …
    These handicapped individualities are having someone close to their hearts for warmth, most importantly, genuined to themselves that gives handicapped individualities every reasons to spur on till their last moment, when the flames in them dies out… … like every individualities.
    Sad huh… … Indeed.
    Very sad, indeed.